MY PARENTS.. BREAKING UP?!, please help me!!!! Options

[glitter_jazz09]

Tonight wasn't the first time my mom told us that one day she'll leave us for good. Ever since I was 11, I've already heard her saying how her marriage with my dad is doomed. I've tried telling myself over and over for years that its practically impossible for my parents to split up. My mom used to say that it was nothing to worry about now, because she won't be leaving us until all 3 of us kids are grown up. My older bro's 19, I'm 15 && my lil` brother's 11, sure.. my lil` brother's still young; but what the heck does that matter? I'm not going to count the years until my lil` brother comes of age! I JUST WANT THINGS BETWEEN MY PARENTS TO BE GREAT like it was before life got complicated! I know loads of people who's parents are seperated, and I somehow know how it feels like and how it affects a person. And I really, really don't want that to happen to us. The only comfort zone I have now is knowing that my dad won't allow her to end their marriage, but.. what if he grows tired of it too? I know they're really different in many ways, that fact is smething undeniable even to me. But there's gotta be some solution.. coz even the worst situations have a solution! I can't think of how life would be with seperated parents!!! From where I come from, seperate parents are a BIG THING. When people find out, they just go "tsk tsk" and immediately stereotype the whole family. When my lil` brother and I confronted our mom telling her how it'd affect us if ever she'd push through with her "little idea" (no! its not little.. NOT AT ALL), she told us that she rather leave us kids, than for her to grow old miserable. I understand that it'd be selfish if we try convincing her to stay just for our sake. I mean, if I were in her shoes.. I'd probably think likewise.

I really don't know what to do anymore! A few yrs back, when I'd hear statements like these frm my mom, I would cry my eyes out. But now? Sure, it still hurts like sht, and I've somehow understood more about their marriage through the years.. but I really can't imagine what life would be! How everything would change. I hate change, especially these kinds!


what should I do? and how do I cope with all these things that happen.. OFTEN? My mom says that there has never been a day they didn't argue. I don't know what to do, I feel lost.

[iminlovewithTomD...]

i cant say that i have the same problem, but it must hurt really bad :'( but i would say that if they DO break up, that you should see a counselor until you've established security. I have a friend whose parents are divorced, and she's all light and happy all the time, so i asked her how she could be so happy when something so horrible happened to her, and she told me that it doesnt hurt after a while, and that you learn to live with it.

maybe there's not much you can do (besides see a counselor) except accept it. i know that's asking a lot, and it's probably gonna hurt really bad, but eventually you'll overcome it. and when you overcome something that immensely huge, you're an all around stronger, and maybe even BETTER person. so just hang in there, and it should be fine.