MY PARENTS.. BREAKING UP?!, please help me!!!! Options

[glitter_jazz09]

Tonight wasn't the first time my mom told us that one day she'll leave us for good. Ever since I was 11, I've already heard her saying how her marriage with my dad is doomed. I've tried telling myself over and over for years that its practically impossible for my parents to split up. My mom used to say that it was nothing to worry about now, because she won't be leaving us until all 3 of us kids are grown up. My older bro's 19, I'm 15 && my lil` brother's 11, sure.. my lil` brother's still young; but what the heck does that matter? I'm not going to count the years until my lil` brother comes of age! I JUST WANT THINGS BETWEEN MY PARENTS TO BE GREAT like it was before life got complicated! I know loads of people who's parents are seperated, and I somehow know how it feels like and how it affects a person. And I really, really don't want that to happen to us. The only comfort zone I have now is knowing that my dad won't allow her to end their marriage, but.. what if he grows tired of it too? I know they're really different in many ways, that fact is smething undeniable even to me. But there's gotta be some solution.. coz even the worst situations have a solution! I can't think of how life would be with seperated parents!!! From where I come from, seperate parents are a BIG THING. When people find out, they just go "tsk tsk" and immediately stereotype the whole family. When my lil` brother and I confronted our mom telling her how it'd affect us if ever she'd push through with her "little idea" (no! its not little.. NOT AT ALL), she told us that she rather leave us kids, than for her to grow old miserable. I understand that it'd be selfish if we try convincing her to stay just for our sake. I mean, if I were in her shoes.. I'd probably think likewise.

I really don't know what to do anymore! A few yrs back, when I'd hear statements like these frm my mom, I would cry my eyes out. But now? Sure, it still hurts like sht, and I've somehow understood more about their marriage through the years.. but I really can't imagine what life would be! How everything would change. I hate change, especially these kinds!


what should I do? and how do I cope with all these things that happen.. OFTEN? My mom says that there has never been a day they didn't argue. I don't know what to do, I feel lost.

[*This Confession*]

I really agree with xmayleex

go tell someone you trust about it
My parents are going through their second split up. [I'm rather happy about it though] Really you can't do anything about it because if you try talking them out of it then it may just cause problems because my mom believes that me and my sister did that and she got all mad at us and blamed us for ever coming back to my dad. Although I really didn't want her to come back and I avoided my parents for 3 months or so when she did come back.

Its up to your parents if they want to go through conciling or some kind of support/help for their relationship. I have to look at it that not everyone is meant to be. You can believe it all you want but sometimes its not going to work and people get so caught up into their feelings that are blind to the actual heart and go for what they want only to regret it. [I'm not saying your parents regret having kids or anything, don't take it out of context.]

Anyway go talk to someone get it off your chest. You'll eventually move on and get over it. It does take a lot of time and patience is a good thing. Although anyway I think you should get advice from someone else besides me.
good luck.
Its life..
your going to go through hard time and bad ones of course to.
You go to your favorite place one that makes you complete, something you love to look at like the ocean or the sky and you get over it and move on.