Some girls don't like me........., ........coz I'm popular :( Options

[Emma Sue]

Hi guys.
I used to have some friends but they dumped me coz they say that i'm too perfect they hate me.
I'm very popular, u know i'm the kinda girl that everyone knows and likes. I've many older friends and they invite me to their parties and my friends used to get mad.
On Saint Valentine's day all my boy classmates brought me flowers and presents(almost everybody has a crush on me) and my friends wouldn't speak to me.
But really it's not my fault that every boy likes me. I just try to be nice and sweet w/ everyone. But i don't like anybody else, i love my bf.

A month ago my friend was like: Don't talk to me again. I hate you. U r so f****** beautiful, u r smart,u have the most amazing bohemian style ever, teachers like u, u do good at school, every single boy that meets u thinks u r the cutest and sweetest girl ever. But I hate you!!!!!!!!! Even my parents love u more than they love me. I'm fed up w/ you Emma Sue!!!!Emma Sue!The nicest name!!! I hate you!!!!! U r like England's sweetheart!!!!!!!

And since then she and her friends don't talk to me. I've got other friends but I can't understand why some girls don't like me only because I'm popular. It's unfair coz I'm totally nice and sweet w/ them. What do u think?

[*mipadi*]

Haha!

I'm sorry, I don't mean to laugh, it's just that we don't often get problems like this around here. Most people are upset because no one likes them or they have some sort of problem, not because they're well-liked and popular.

It seems everyone else is either telling you a) you shouldn't be upset because you have it better off than most people, or b) you're conceited. Now, it's quite possible that you are using your life and your friend's words to brag, but I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you are really disappointed that your friend doesn't seem to like you anymore.

You seem to have learned a valuable lesson: All the popularity in the world doesn't matter if the one person most important to you (or at least very important to you) doesn't like you. And you make another good point that everyone who heeds this thread should take to heart: Even the person who seems to have it all has problems, and those problems bother that person, just like any of our personal problems bother us.

But a lot of people did make a good point: Sometimes, the reason you think other people don't like you, is not the reason they don't like you at all. Let me use a personal anecdote as an example. When I was a junior in high school, I had a great group of friends. But I was always really paranoid that they didn't like me, and that I wasn't their favorite friend. Long story short, by the beginning of my senior year, they all pretty much stopped hanging out with me. I thought was because I was dorky and "not cool", because I didn't drink and smoke and party a lot, because they were too wrapped up in themselves to be my friend, because I wasn't tall and handsome and didn't attract all the girls. That wasn't the reason at all, though. It was because I was f**king annoying. I was always talking about my problems and whining about how no one liked me. So they stopped hanging out with me.

My point? Maybe it's not because you're popular and every boy likes you; maybe it's how those things make you act.

It's not bad to be popular and well-liked. But it's bad to hang onto it so tightly, to broadcast it so loudly, that people get sick of you. I'm not accusing you of doing that—but you know if you are or not, so keep my wisdom in mind.

And finally…maybe it's a self-esteem issue. I'm not accusing you of anything, but let me ask you honestly: Do you like yourself? Are you happy with who you are? A lot of times (especially in high school), people who claim to have a lot of friends, and claim to have a lot of admirers, really suffer from a lack of self-esteem, and use their number of friendships to cover that up. Remember that it's not the number of friends, but the quality that counts.

Those are some thoughts to keep in mind.