Exploiting Personal Business, Is telling everything to a close girlfriend too much? Options

[msladyliberty]

Hello everyone here at createblog...I'm having a small crisis.

My boyfriend of 3+ years does not appreciate my contribution of our personal business to my close friends.

Now, I know I'm not supposed to do this...but I need to hear other opinions from other people. So here goes...

Like most girls, we tell each other everything about our boyfriends. We say good and bad things about them. And sometimes, when we're in a dilema, we talk about it and ask each other for help. Such as: over-reacting over something or some needed advice on how to approach the problem.

And I know sometimes, us girls share our little complaints with complete strangers. Like little complaints such as: "Men are so ignorant, they only understand food and football!" like that kind of stuff.

My question is...

Is it so wrong to talk about your relationship issues with close friends?

Does EVERYTHING have to be told, even if it's over spilled milk?

Do you really care about what your significant other's friends think about you, that you hate it when he/she tells their friends all about yer business?

I'm the type that sets up the scenario and asks a girlfriend whether or not I was wrong or right, if I was over-reacting, or how should I talk to him? So I tell a girlfriend, whether or not the situation is so small, that I should get over it!

Sometimes, a different perspective helps. And talking it out and hearing a different opinion or keeping an advice in mind is needed for better understanding.

But of course, I tell only the friends that know my man personally as well. That way, there's no bias opinion.

My man says he's never done this to me...but HE SO HAS! I know because his friends say, "I heard you are 'this and that.'" or "you know about that one time ya'll had that thing goin' on? yea I knew about that one!" you know what I mean????!!!

I don't know if I'm trippin'...but I apologized for being an effin' woman for talking it over with my girlfriends. He openly knows I do it...so I don't know why he's so self-conscious about what my girls think...when they evidently think he's still a great guy...just not perfect! But who is? Whatever I say does not impair their impression of him.

So what do you guys think? Is it really wrong that I tell my girlfriends? If it is...tell me now, and be honest! 'Cause I think he's wanting to break up with me over this. So don't sugar-coat your opinions...'cause I want to know how I can improve...if I need it.

Thanks you guys

[lyin_in_wait]

sure talking about it to your friends could come back to bite you in the ass but what else can you do? you cant talk to it about him if hes the one causing it, especially if he thinks its over exaggerating, when you feel differently. if he talks to his friends about you then its fair game to talk to your friends about him. plus you would probably go insane if you held it all in..

he should respect your ways of dealing with things. but you should also respect the fact that it does bother him. maybe he feels like hes being left in the dark about some things that you two are supposed to work out and not you two...and some friends.

he could be scared that the friends would turn you against him...