Exploiting Personal Business, Is telling everything to a close girlfriend too much? Options

[msladyliberty]

Hello everyone here at createblog...I'm having a small crisis.

My boyfriend of 3+ years does not appreciate my contribution of our personal business to my close friends.

Now, I know I'm not supposed to do this...but I need to hear other opinions from other people. So here goes...

Like most girls, we tell each other everything about our boyfriends. We say good and bad things about them. And sometimes, when we're in a dilema, we talk about it and ask each other for help. Such as: over-reacting over something or some needed advice on how to approach the problem.

And I know sometimes, us girls share our little complaints with complete strangers. Like little complaints such as: "Men are so ignorant, they only understand food and football!" like that kind of stuff.

My question is...

Is it so wrong to talk about your relationship issues with close friends?

Does EVERYTHING have to be told, even if it's over spilled milk?

Do you really care about what your significant other's friends think about you, that you hate it when he/she tells their friends all about yer business?

I'm the type that sets up the scenario and asks a girlfriend whether or not I was wrong or right, if I was over-reacting, or how should I talk to him? So I tell a girlfriend, whether or not the situation is so small, that I should get over it!

Sometimes, a different perspective helps. And talking it out and hearing a different opinion or keeping an advice in mind is needed for better understanding.

But of course, I tell only the friends that know my man personally as well. That way, there's no bias opinion.

My man says he's never done this to me...but HE SO HAS! I know because his friends say, "I heard you are 'this and that.'" or "you know about that one time ya'll had that thing goin' on? yea I knew about that one!" you know what I mean????!!!

I don't know if I'm trippin'...but I apologized for being an effin' woman for talking it over with my girlfriends. He openly knows I do it...so I don't know why he's so self-conscious about what my girls think...when they evidently think he's still a great guy...just not perfect! But who is? Whatever I say does not impair their impression of him.

So what do you guys think? Is it really wrong that I tell my girlfriends? If it is...tell me now, and be honest! 'Cause I think he's wanting to break up with me over this. So don't sugar-coat your opinions...'cause I want to know how I can improve...if I need it.

Thanks you guys

[*This Confession*]

3 years
over one thing like you talking openly with your opinions with your good friends.

well i know you never said you were in love or anything

but love isn't perfect,
you should understand each others flaws, understand that they make mistakes
but also if they were to make a mistake
to openly talk about with each other
until its solved.

Maybe you should ask your bf why he is so "self-conscious" about it.
Thats the only way your going to figure it out..truly.
Instead of asking us about it.

but also
No, I don't find it wrong that you tell your girlfriends
I think you getting their opinion before going to your bf with the problem is actually a good thing, You can make sure its not something to make a big deal out of. And making your bf and yourself stress over something that could have been solved by just talking to your friends about it.

Also while i was writing that i actually thought that maybe hes jealous? Maybe he wants to know everything you talk to your friends about, and be the first to hear them before they do.

&shrugs; just a thought.