This was a dumb fight...but it's not my fault. Options

[BryMonster]

Okay, so as you guys know, or may not know.
About almost a month ago, I started dating this
girl named Amanda. It's been a really good
relationship. But we just got into a fight over
the dumbest thing. Okay, so my last Rugby
match is on Thursday and I've been wanting
her to come for a long time. She could never
make it because they were so early in the
morning. Thursday, will be the last game
an hour or so after school. So I figured, the
perfect time for her to come to it.

The the dilemma occurs. Her brother has a
baseball game. I was on the phone when she
told me this and I stated simply, "You've gone
to almost all of his games. Just forget this one
and come to mine." And she kind of stayed
quiet. Then she said "I've made up my decision.
I'm going to his. Gotta go. Bye." AND THEN HANGS
UP! WTF?!? How mature was that? I was so
furious. I didn't call her back, I texted her saying
"Way to be rude." & she texts me back with, "Way
to be a jackass." I wasn't trying to be a jackass
intentionally. I've just had a rough day. But still,
the situation could've been handled more maturely.

Now, I'm not going to give in easily. I'm just not like
that. So I'm going to wait until she apologizes. What's
your take on this guys?

[Your pain is not...]

(First off, I don't want to sound like I know everything in this post, these are all just ideas/suggestions)

I think she took it too seriously when you said "Just forget this one and come to mine." to her, it must've sounded selfish and you weren't giving her the choice. Plus, because it's text, she'd imagine you were saying "Way to be rude" because you were pissed or something.

I understand that you really want her to come see you play for once instead of the billions of times she's went to her brother's. She only hung up because she was torn and hurt when you said what you did on the phone.

I don't think it's anybody's fault. I know you must've not meant it the way she took it. Maybe you just subconsciously expressed some emotions she wasn't comfortable with, or she was just taking it too seriously.

She's doing the same. Waiting for you to call first to talk, so if neither of you call soon, she'll miss your game. Atleast you could say you're sorry for the misunderstanding? I think she's one of those person who needs to be given a lot of space according to this topic.

Here are some things that could be used:

• "...sorry if I let out some emotions and/or if you took it the wrong way, but I didn't mean it...."
• "...I'd really like you to come to the last match, I'll be really meehhh if you didn't go because you've went to all of your brother's game already..."
• "...it'll mean so much to me if you went...."
• IMPORTANT "...I really hope this (insignificant) problem doesn't affect our relationship..."

Hmmm. Hope I helped. Good luck, dear.