What should I do? Options

[miss_isabelle]

I've been with my bf for almost 5 years now.. and last year we broke up because he needed some freedom and wanted me to seek elsewhere but I stood by him no matter what and hoped we would get back together again. It lasted for 4 months and we got back. Now he's loving me more than ever. The only thing is i'm having second thoughts.. I feel like I DO need to experience other things/guys.. i'm still young but the main reason is that he is not the same guy I use to date. He changed psychologically because he went through a certain traumatism and now I feel like i'm loving him less and the more I feel that way, the more I feel like breaking up. I feel bad because he's going through a rough time but it is affecting my own life and depressing me too.. I need an uplift more than anything and he can't help me right now!

[miss_isabelle]

there`s always a battle between autonomy & closeness in relationships... but if you feel that you need your time apart, then you need your time apart.  you both need to grow as individuals because change is what makes things healthy... him having to go through a certain traumatic situation should NOT be the reason for you staying in a relationship-- that`s horrible.  you can always be there as a friend if you two so wish to make things work out that way.

you broke up before because HE needed his freedom and you agreed to it.  if YOU need YOUR freedom, then he should understand that.  there are times when you NEED to be selfish.

That's exactly how I feel.. right now it is MY time. I was more scared to think I would be selfish after all this but you're right we need to grow as individuals. Although, when we first broke up that's what I was telling myself I needed to grow apart from him and I didnt achieve it.. Now, I hope I will find the courage to tell him without destroying him more, after still being fragile from that traumatic situation..