need advice... Options

[proudpk]

(im a guy, 17 years old)

Well there's this one girl I've been totally falling for... for more than a year now. I KNOW that I totally love her and also know that she was interested at least once... you know how you can just tell like someone likes you. Thing is I was too shy to make a move, and she was also way too shy to do anything about it. I changed a lot and I'm not really the shy little boy I used to be (although it can still be problematic at times, but that's another story).

Well she's been on and off with this other guy the whole time (actually I have no idea what's between them... they're like dating but she tells me that nothing has never happened because she doesn't like him... now go wonder why they spend their week-ends together), and I've had a few one-night hookups too but neither of us have had anything serious. I still want her real bad but I don't think she feels the same about that. She happens to be one of my best friends too, which has led to some confusing moments, and she is also my best friend's ex.

My best friend thinks I still have my chances... the other guys say that I should move on... the girls don't know 'cause they all think I don't love her any more. And as far as guessing if she likes me or not I'm totally screwed. She gives me mixed feelings all the time. Some days she acts like she would be ready to fall into my arms and other days she is very distant, barely says hello and doesn't talk much.

And when I call her she's almost always doing something else and it makes me quite sad/mad. Like that other time I called her, and she said she had to study but she would have really liked to do something with me. And a few days later when I see her she tells me that she didn't study because that guy came over to her house and they watched movies.

Guys - What would you do?
Girls - How would you feel about a guy who's had feelings for you for that long?

thanks in advance ppl...
peace.

[xxeleganziia]

ooh man, i really dislike those 'mixed feelings'..i kno how u feel. have u tried talking to her about it? or about anything related to how she acts? i mean..i can understand why you wouldnt want to ask her why shes distant sometimes [she might take it the wrong way and get mad..i dislike that also, lol, been there.], but that could help. i mean, it probably would clear a lot of things up. its probably driving you crazy, lol, and i dont blame you. some girls are just like that..but yeah my advice is to talk to her about how shes been acting..and be careful as to how you word things..i dont kno how she is, but ive had bad experiences where people take things the wrong way and im just giving you a heads-up as to what may happen..just a suggestion

[proudpk]

It's always good to know other people have gone through this before. Thing is it would be really odd if I tried to ask her why she's distant sometimes... I'd feel much more comfortable about confessing my love to her than asking that. It doesn't seem like she's doing it consciously... it's more like mood-dependant I think. I could be totally wrong though... how would I know heh? Whatever... I'm planning to ask her out in the course of the next week. I'll see what happens and I'm pretty sure it'll either all be uphill or downhill from then on.

peace.