I fu*ked things up again..., -_- Options

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

Ok .. Ive known this girl my hole life.. she is my best friend but she has problem with her home life, drugs, drinking, and others. Her dad came over to my house to ask me questions about my friend.. and I said somthing the wrong way.. and now she claims that I " f**ked up her life".. " AGAIN " .. Its not like we never fought before.. and I have just known her for so long I know how to deal with her pissed off ness. This time I think I f**ked up for good. I told her I was sorry and I dont know what else I can do is pray.. yes im a prayer..

hears some one yell " CHURCHY " behind me..

Yes its true .. this is just one of the other things that she has problems with..

I love her and her to much to let 13 years go down the drain.. ( Im 15 )


Help please?

[illumineering]

Refrain from judging the events in your friend's life. You shouldn't feel guilty about relating factual information that can be verified. The judgement of her quality of life is unnecessary. I'm fairly confident that she knows she has problems. Judgement from you adds unnecessary weight and drama to the situation. Rather than helping, you'll create a distraction that will keep her from looking at herself. The issue will be shifted to your betrayl and only compound the issue.

You could offer an apology if you feel you were in error. If not, let it go. If this relationship is strong, there will be an opportunity to mend it in the future. Give your friend some space to deal with her issues. I wouldn't beat yourself up over something that doesn't seem to have been done intentionally or with malice of forethought.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

Refrain from judging the events in your friend's life. You shouldn't feel guilty about relating factual information that can be verified. The judgement of her quality of life is unnecessary. I'm fairly confident that she knows she has problems. Judgement from you adds unnecessary weight and drama to the situation. Rather than helping, you'll create a distraction that will keep her from looking at herself. The issue will be shifted to your betrayl and only compound the issue.

You could offer an apology if you feel you were in error. If not, let it go. If this relationship is strong, there will be an opportunity to mend it in the future. Give your friend some space to deal with her issues. I wouldn't beat yourself up over something that doesn't seem to have been done intentionally or with malice of forethought.

I wasent trying to be judging because if I did she would have to slap somthing right back in my face..
for ex. She has a drug problem. I also did too in the past.. She would have somthing smart to say back to me.. See im not the fighting type.. I suck at combacks. ( Not saying that I would throw somthing back at her) See im the kinda hippie like person.. peace , love , and kindness.. there my guide lines of living.
She is the smartest person I know.. and she knows me inside and out. If I say somthing wrong.. she will have somthing " Smart " to say back..
I also dont fell guilty about this problem eather. Every thing I said to her father is true.. I tryed to help but it just came back and slaped me in the face.. which hurts really bad.
I did give her a apology she didnt want to take it because.. im not trust werthy?
-_-