need advice... Options

[proudpk]

(im a guy, 17 years old)

Well there's this one girl I've been totally falling for... for more than a year now. I KNOW that I totally love her and also know that she was interested at least once... you know how you can just tell like someone likes you. Thing is I was too shy to make a move, and she was also way too shy to do anything about it. I changed a lot and I'm not really the shy little boy I used to be (although it can still be problematic at times, but that's another story).

Well she's been on and off with this other guy the whole time (actually I have no idea what's between them... they're like dating but she tells me that nothing has never happened because she doesn't like him... now go wonder why they spend their week-ends together), and I've had a few one-night hookups too but neither of us have had anything serious. I still want her real bad but I don't think she feels the same about that. She happens to be one of my best friends too, which has led to some confusing moments, and she is also my best friend's ex.

My best friend thinks I still have my chances... the other guys say that I should move on... the girls don't know 'cause they all think I don't love her any more. And as far as guessing if she likes me or not I'm totally screwed. She gives me mixed feelings all the time. Some days she acts like she would be ready to fall into my arms and other days she is very distant, barely says hello and doesn't talk much.

And when I call her she's almost always doing something else and it makes me quite sad/mad. Like that other time I called her, and she said she had to study but she would have really liked to do something with me. And a few days later when I see her she tells me that she didn't study because that guy came over to her house and they watched movies.

Guys - What would you do?
Girls - How would you feel about a guy who's had feelings for you for that long?

thanks in advance ppl...
peace.

[SarahxJoy]

Wow..you know what? This is like de ja vu, almost.

You see, my best friend used to date this guy but they always had problems and kept on going on and off for about a month. But then after that, he started noticing me and fell for me, but I never did anything about it 'cause at first I knew hardly anything about him and well, he was my best friend's ex. I wasn't sure if it was okay to hook up with him or not. But..eventually, when my best friend transferred to another school, her ex and I got a lot closer and I developed feelings for him. And well..we've been together for almost seven months.

I know that every situation has its differences though, so don't take my word for it.

But, that's the only reason I can think of why she's sometimes close but distant to you. Is she okay with going out with even if you're also best friends with her ex? How long has it been since her and your best friend ended things? And as for the guy she hands out with on weekends, maybe they're just really close friends too. Overall though, maybe you should just confess to this girl you love, and see what she wants to make of it, if anything.

Good luck.