Compulsive Cheater?, looking for advice.. Options

[[Mediocre]Artist]

It really bugs me to have to ask cB for help, but I can't ask my girls and I certainly can't ask my boyfriend.

I've dated this guy for two and a half years. He knows me inside out, accepts my flaws, helped me when I was suicidal, got me through cutting, stays up with me at night. He's my best friend, without question. Last year I cheated on his with someone I knew. The guy I cheated with was a friend, but I wasn't emotionally attached. I started to thing that I wasn't in love with my boyfriend anymore. The combined things put us in a bit of a fight and after two weeks of being apart I realized I was miserable without him. I was lonely and became completely cold hearted. Just honestly cruel and icy to the point that even I was shocked at myself. Plus I realized I was in love with my ex so we talked a lot and I begged and pleaded (oh so humbling) and we got back together. He forgave me (in fact he's friends with the guy) but I've never forgiven myself.

So its a year later. My eye started wondering towards another guy (vaguely considered a friend to me) after I had two dreams about cheating with him (while one of my friends watched and smiled no less ) and just last night I had another dream about cheating on my boyfriend with some other guy (who I don't even like!). I don't know whats going on with me anymore. Is this a phase or something? I'm really starting to worry about myself.

[Paradox of Life]

Basically, you're being selfish. You just want your boyfriend to comfort you and help you with all your problems. You don't realize that you're hurting him as well as yourself. I think that you should seperate yourself from him and every other guy for a month or two. He sounds like a good friend, but with all the complications, not someone you want to tie yourself with. You're obviously confused. So don't commit yourself to anything right now. Focus on something else that doesn't require contact with guys. Like .. art, poetry, friends, shopping, fashion, etc.

[*Uronacid*]

Basically, you're being selfish. You just want your boyfriend to comfort you and help you with all your problems. You don't realize that you're hurting him as well as yourself. I think that you should seperate yourself from him and every other guy for a month or two. He sounds like a good friend, but with all the complications, not someone you want to tie yourself with. You're obviously confused. So don't commit yourself to anything right now. Focus on something else that doesn't require contact with guys. Like .. art, poetry, friends, shopping, fashion, etc.

you dont know everything, you cant entirley say that... she hasn't cheated yet...a nd shes trying not to until she has cleared her mind and come to a final decision :)