going to the doctor after losing your virginity, i need advice/help. |
 May 7 2006, 11:49 AM
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okay, so me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex (i dont know if this topic is "innapropriate" but im sorry if it is.), and we have done "foreplay" and stuff before. I have my physical in august, and we are most likely gonna have sex before then.
Im nervous because my doctor asks every year "have you had sex", and i dont know how to answer it this year. My doctor knows & is kinda friends with my mom, and i dont want her knowing im having sex because she wants me to wait until im married, but im completely in love with my boyfriend now, and ive already thought it through. what do i say to my doctor? i know i probably shouldnt lie, because they need to know incase you get an STD, STI, or get pregnant, but i really do not want her telling my mom. Should i tell my doctor i have (because i most likely will have sex before my physical) and if so, what should i say to her? |
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May 8 2006, 09:30 PM
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Also, before you say you love your boyfriend... ask yourself, what does love truely mean? You really can't describe love in and of itself. You can only describe what people do when they are in love. People who are in love do whats best for the people they love. Is your boyfreind having sex with you really whats best and is he thinking of all the possible outcomes? the risks and problems acossiated with sex at such a young age are extemely severe.
There are so many negative variables that can come out of having sex while in highschool or before you are married that it just doesn't make any sense to do so, and most of them arn't std's. Wouldn't it mean more if you both saved yourselves. You both must realize that your relationship has the possibility of not lasting forever. Why would you want to have sex when the option to break up is still an option? one last thing i would like to say, im not here to tell you that your boyfriend doesn't love you. In fact he may feel that he loves you. He may just not be looking at every possible outcome of the situation... love takes time, you need to learn how to meat someones needs before you can love someone. He may even feel that having sex with you may be loving you. I'm not even saying that sex doesn't feel good... in fact, sex feels frickin awsome... but the consequences of sex can be disasterous... a wise father once said, "There is a reason doing the right thing is so hard. If it wasn't, it wouldn't mean a thing." |
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May 8 2006, 10:23 PM
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QUOTE(Uronacid @ May 8 2006, 9:30 PM)  Also, before you say you love your boyfriend... ask yourself, what does love truely mean? You really can't describe love in and of itself. You can only describe what people do when they are in love. People who are in love do whats best for the people they love. Is your boyfreind having sex with you really whats best and is he thinking of all the possible outcomes? the risks and problems acossiated with sex at such a young age are extemely severe. There are so many negative variables that can come out of having sex while in highschool or before you are married that it just doesn't make any sense to do so, and most of them arn't std's. Wouldn't it mean more if you both saved yourselves. You both must realize that your relationship has the possibility of not lasting forever. Why would you want to have sex when the option to break up is still an option? one last thing i would like to say, im not here to tell you that your boyfriend doesn't love you. In fact he may feel that he loves you. He may just not be looking at every possible outcome of the situation... love takes time, you need to learn how to meat someones needs before you can love someone. He may even feel that having sex with you may be loving you. I'm not even saying that sex doesn't feel good... in fact, sex feels frickin awsome... but the consequences of sex can be disasterous... a wise father once said, "There is a reason doing the right thing is so hard. If it wasn't, it wouldn't mean a thing." THAT IS HECKA TRUE!!! but yea really tho doctors wont know if you are a virgin or not because they jus ask you and that is it. then they do other tests to see if you are pregnant. but really tho if you are this scared about having sex and your mom knowing and having doubts then its a big sign that you are not ready yet. you are still very young and love is a concept that is confusing at times when you are 15 ( i know because i was there  ) of course their is a lot of peer pressure about loving someone, todays ultimate sign of love means having sex with someone and that is totally untrue. You can love someone to death without having sex yet. Really take time to talk this over with your bf and think of the risk factors. if your bf really loves you he will understand and be patient. hope everything turns out okay 
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ama if you're really that worried about your mom f... May 7 2006, 01:07 PM xo_rock yeah so i really need someones advice. May 7 2006, 01:49 PM RiC3xBoy Just tell your doctor the truth, and ask that he/s... May 7 2006, 01:50 PM
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just tell your doctor, she's going to ... May 7 2006, 01:56 PM juliar Yea, if you ask your doctor not to tell, your doct... May 7 2006, 02:03 PM helllla jankyyyy You shouldn't lie. Doctors aren't supposed... May 7 2006, 02:10 PM doork QUOTE(helllla jankyyyy @ May 7 2006, 2:10... Jun 30 2006, 03:20 AM xo_rock yeah im 15, so thats not too young to the point wh... May 7 2006, 02:19 PM aznxdreamer ^ i dnoo...most teenagers that young THINK that th... May 7 2006, 02:32 PM viola_winnie tell the doctor and tell her not to tell this to y... May 8 2006, 03:49 AM lil_nat_cat erm........... ^ditto!
ur onli 15.... thinkin... May 8 2006, 04:41 AM xCrys ^ I agree with what she says...
Though 15? Even t... May 8 2006, 08:45 AM This Confession sorry
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and thought the wrong thing.... May 8 2006, 08:53 AM Uronacid QUOTE(xo_rock @ May 7 2006, 12:49 PM) oka... May 8 2006, 10:19 AM Smoogrish ^ That's some really good advice.
Tell your d... May 8 2006, 04:13 PM swimgirlarc Like uronacid said...
people change alot through h... May 8 2006, 08:42 PM x_signhere To avoid telling the truth to the doctor, go get y... May 9 2006, 05:26 AM gponce10104 when he asks the question just say yes. you dont h... May 9 2006, 08:19 AM Evil_One1 Well, think about it. If you ever got pregnant or ... May 9 2006, 08:43 PM xbabyboo Tell your doctor to keep it between you and her/hi... May 10 2006, 08:02 PM Comik_knerd That's why you just listen to your parents and... May 12 2006, 10:33 AM Uronacid QUOTE(Comik_knerd @ May 12 2006, 11:33 AM... May 12 2006, 10:51 AM lalalaLANUH I don't have any first hand experience in this... May 12 2006, 05:19 PM Paradox of Life Um, don't lose your virginity if you don't... May 12 2006, 07:08 PM one_and_only you can tell your doctor you want your parent to w... May 13 2006, 01:55 PM killuh katy well one day it will come to you.
i went through i... May 13 2006, 10:19 PM DORKalicious if your so worried about it, just don't have s... May 14 2006, 02:26 PM somebody_toldmex QUOTE(DORKalicious @ May 14 2006, 2:26 PM... Jun 3 2006, 09:07 PM This Confession ^ yea i mostly agree with that
although josh [uron... May 14 2006, 04:17 PM adecimalabove virgin, haha but i prolly would May 15 2006, 02:15 PM Jennasaur Doctor-Patient confidentiality. I don't think ... Jun 1 2006, 08:01 PM Angelina Taylor You're 14!!!!!!! A... Jun 1 2006, 09:03 PM x3_mr_mak 15 IS kinda early
if ur completely in love w/ ur b... Jun 1 2006, 10:59 PM Ox_Su`Zie ^^^ your pretty i saw your myspace.
QUOTE(x3_mr_... Jun 2 2006, 01:19 PM mizzkim haha... maybe you should do your physical first.. ... Jun 3 2006, 05:09 PM cheri_pi Yeah, there's doctor-patient confidentiality, ... Jun 4 2006, 08:24 AM Hannarr First off
if you are really worried
wait untill a... Jun 8 2006, 08:47 AM lauren5848 either dont have sex or tell ur doctor the truth a... Jun 10 2006, 07:04 AM tincannnnn i think it is your doctor's job to keep it con... Jun 30 2006, 03:14 AM |
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