going to the doctor after losing your virginity, i need advice/help. Options

[xo_rock]

okay, so me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex (i dont know if this topic is "innapropriate" but im sorry if it is.), and we have done "foreplay" and stuff before. I have my physical in august, and we are most likely gonna have sex before then.

Im nervous because my doctor asks every year "have you had sex", and i dont know how to answer it this year. My doctor knows & is kinda friends with my mom, and i dont want her knowing im having sex because she wants me to wait until im married, but im completely in love with my boyfriend now, and ive already thought it through.

what do i say to my doctor?
i know i probably shouldnt lie, because they need to know incase you get an STD, STI, or get pregnant, but i really do not want her telling my mom.
Should i tell my doctor i have (because i most likely will have sex before my physical)
and if so, what should i say to her?

[*Uronacid*]

Also, before you say you love your boyfriend... ask yourself, what does love truely mean? You really can't describe love in and of itself. You can only describe what people do when they are in love. People who are in love do whats best for the people they love. Is your boyfreind having sex with you really whats best and is he thinking of all the possible outcomes? the risks and problems acossiated with sex at such a young age are extemely severe.

There are so many negative variables that can come out of having sex while in highschool or before you are married that it just doesn't make any sense to do so, and most of them arn't std's.

Wouldn't it mean more if you both saved yourselves. You both must realize that your relationship has the possibility of not lasting forever. Why would you want to have sex when the option to break up is still an option?

one last thing i would like to say, im not here to tell you that your boyfriend doesn't love you. In fact he may feel that he loves you. He may just not be looking at every possible outcome of the situation... love takes time, you need to learn how to meat someones needs before you can love someone. He may even feel that having sex with you may be loving you. I'm not even saying that sex doesn't feel good... in fact, sex feels frickin awsome... but the consequences of sex can be disasterous...

a wise father once said, "There is a reason doing the right thing is so hard. If it wasn't, it wouldn't mean a thing."