going to the doctor after losing your virginity, i need advice/help. Options

[xo_rock]

okay, so me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex (i dont know if this topic is "innapropriate" but im sorry if it is.), and we have done "foreplay" and stuff before. I have my physical in august, and we are most likely gonna have sex before then.

Im nervous because my doctor asks every year "have you had sex", and i dont know how to answer it this year. My doctor knows & is kinda friends with my mom, and i dont want her knowing im having sex because she wants me to wait until im married, but im completely in love with my boyfriend now, and ive already thought it through.

what do i say to my doctor?
i know i probably shouldnt lie, because they need to know incase you get an STD, STI, or get pregnant, but i really do not want her telling my mom.
Should i tell my doctor i have (because i most likely will have sex before my physical)
and if so, what should i say to her?

[*Uronacid*]

okay, so me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex (i dont know if this topic is "innapropriate" but im sorry if it is.), and we have done "foreplay" and stuff before. I have my physical in august, and we are most likely gonna have sex before then.

Im nervous because my doctor asks every year "have you had sex", and i dont know how to answer it this year. My doctor knows & is kinda friends with my mom, and i dont want her knowing im having sex because she wants me to wait until im married, but im completely in love with my boyfriend now, and ive already thought it through.

what do i say to my doctor?
i know i probably shouldnt lie, because they need to know incase you get an STD, STI, or get pregnant, but i really do not want her telling my mom.
Should i tell my doctor i have (because i most likely will have sex before my physical)
and if so, what should i say to her?

Alright, your doctor doesn't need to know. KNowing whether your sexually active or not is just a way for the doctor to trouble shoot illness/sickness and rule out possible problems with your body. If you feel like the things you will say to the doctor are not going to be kept confidential then don't tell him...

One issue I see you facing is that you can't seem to talk to your parents about it. I'm just going to take what you said for face value, and say that it sounds like you don't want to tell your mom becuase your afraid of dissapionting her... I know that when I had sex I didn't want to tell my parents either. I thought they would be so dissapionted in me. I also thought they would punish me. The truth was that they didn't want me to have sex becuase they knew I would get hurt afterward. They were only trying to protect me. After all it's a parents job to protect their children. When i did tell them, they were nothing but loving and supportive. They really felt my pain because they had gone through the same thing as me when they were my age. Your parents are probobly telling you not to have sex becuase they are trying to protect you. I know I didn't see it they way when they told em not to have sex untl i was married.

The other issue i see here is you making a discision you will probobly regret. I personally recommend that you don't have sex. The truth is, you don't know whats going to happen in the future. Like you said, you're 15. You and your boyfriend and going to change alot before your relationship gets to the piont of marriage. Although it seems like things are easy now, and you both love eachother. You will go through more changes in your life in highschool and college than any other years in your life. You don't know if this relationship will last forever, and although you hope and have faith that it will.... do you really know for sure? Also, what will you be saving for your husband when you get married if this relationship doesn't work out. Don't you want to give the man that you truley love that special gift. You may last that long, but you should still wait until you do just to make sure.

I understand how had it is, after all... im not a virgin, but i do regret loosing my virginity... and thats why im telling you this stuff... message me if you got questions =]