my boyfriend..., is a cheapie >_< Options

[oOKittyKatOo]

my boyfriend and i have been going out for a lil more than 7 months.. and from the very beginning.. i felt that he was a a bit stingy with things and a cheapie.. at first.. it didnt really bother me.. i would give him a candy.. and he would take an extra two or three (from my other hand as well..) stupid stuff like that.. and when it came to paying.. i would insist 50/50 even though he ate 90% of the food and i ate 10% of the food (he eats so darn fast.. and im a slow eater -.- *sigh*) but now in the relationship.. i feel like im paying more than him by a LONNNNGGG shot.. and its really starting to bug me.. just yesterday.. my bf and my friends and I went to a restaurant after school.. he asked how much i had.. and i told him... then we ordered some stuff and he kept insisting on ordering more and more even though i already strongly hinted no.. in the end (to his disappointment) we didnt order more.. the bill came up to about 30 buckz.. and turns out he only had 5 buckz on him.. so i had to paid 20.. and my other friend paid 10.. (he gave me that 5 buckz later) the thing is.. he ate about 80% of the food.. so now i feel bad.. coz my friend paid so much.. and my bf paid so little when it was him that ate most of it.. today.. we went to a mall and i ordered a large BubbleTea (Large on his suggestion) using the last 5 buckz i had... .. after walking around the mall.. he shamelessly finishes about 90% of it.. offering me a sip once in a while..
i know it sounds shallow and stingy of me to say all this when im getting pissed at my bf for being a cheapie.. but small things build up i guess.. i ask my parents for money all the time now and they're getting pretty pissed at me.. my bf on the other hand doesnt ask his parents.. (he told me in a convo that his dad told him that he could ask for money anytime.. but he doesnt ask.. and his family IS richer than mine. so it's not like his family cant afford it or anything.. he just keeps using MY money) i get him stuff once in awhile if i skip a class to go to a coffee shop.. i get him an iced cappaccino or sth.. HE. has never done sth like that.. even when he's out.. my friend tell me im stupid for spending so much on him when he spends next to nothing on me... maybe they're right....

tradition has it that guys are suppose to pay for everything.. i decided that 50/50 would be best.. right now.. i feel that im paying for EVERYTHING. i feel like he's taking advantage of me .. i know i should talk about this with him since i feel so pissed at him for it.. but i also feel SOOo uncomforatable talking about money matters with him.. but this is really starting to piss me off a LOT.. any suggestions with how i can approach this topic in a subtle way..? and am i right to feel this way..? anyone else in this situation..?

i dont mean to be shallow and keep thinking about money and materialistic things.. but right now.. i have about a dollar left in my wallet.. and i only get 5 buckz allowence a week.. meaning imma be poor for a whileee....

[absinthe]

well, before you talk to him about, maybe you should clarify for the how you feel about him post free-loader realization and how you think he feels about you.

there's a really simple solution to all of this really. if he's being cheap out of choice, for him not be. i mean god damn, if he's got the money why should you have to foot for everything? and your friend too? thanks bullcrackers.

anywho,

don't ask your parents for so much money. just ask for enough for YOU. that way, when he wasn't to buy something in gymongous proportions so you can ... "SHARE" ... then you won't have enough on you. a bit of a sneaky thing to do, but hell, he's being pretty sneaky in making you pay for everything. if you don't have the money, he won't make you foot it.

OR! you can go guilt trip style.

"oh man ... my parents are getting kinda pissed at me now since i've been asking for so much money ... i really hope they don't start cutting down my allowance now otherwise i won't have enough to pay for THE BOTH OF US, ALL THE TIME *worried look*"

or maybe he's just gotten used to you paying for everything and being a god damned stickler.

give him the treatment he's been giving you. at least that makes some sense. him paying since he's a guy. give him a taste of his own medicine, and i'll think he'll be asking for his allowance soon.


pUAHAHAH. yes, i know. i'm evil.

.agiri