Friend Troubles, am i the only one out there with very few friends/major friend problem Options

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It's not like I'm this huge loser/ anti-socal who just refuses to talk to people. I just went to a really, really small school. It used to be just me, my best friend, 2 of our guy friends, and a few people who came an went. We were very happy friends. We go to a pretty big highschool.. so we each have friends that we talk to during class and stuff. But, these last 2 weeks, my "best friend" has been becoming more distant. Then, out of really no where, she starts to avoid me and hang out with other people!! #1 - she's my freakin best friend!! what in the world is she thinking!! and #2.. why? I don't know how to talk to her. Any ideas? I know I'm a good friend.. might i just be boring her?

[x__rilind]

i know the feeling.

being in band means you're istantely part of this huge group of people, and when i came in 10th year, it was a very tight knit group. however, talking to people (on the internet) the last couple years, and then coming back for second term the whole group has really split up and hardly anyone hangs out together anymore. it's kind of sad, remembering how close the group was, but people's interests and attitudes changed as they matured, and the group found they had less common interests.

and i've noticed a lot that my best mate and i are drifting as well. it's really difficult, because her parents are very restricting, she has a job, and she's only an 11th year, so we don't have a lot of time to hang together and such. we try to talk every chance we get though and just make sure we work out our issues.

i'd say talk to your mate and make sure she sees that you're upset about a lack of communication, and ask her if there's anything you've done. if she doesn't talk to you about it or says she doesn't want to talk, just remind her that you're there and willing to listen, and then maybe give her a bit of space to just work out whatever's bugging her.