"baby daddy drama" Options

[grneydbmbshell]

So heres the deal. My boyfriend (of 2 years) and I broke up monday night. Well he and I have a child together, she is three almost four months old. He came over yesterday to spend sometime with Alexia (the baby) and before he left he decided to tell me that he was starting to talk to some other girl. ALREADY. I think thats a little ridiculous. Had it of been me saying that ive started to see another guy, he would have wanted to know everything about him; name, age, school..etc. but when I asked what her name was, he wouldnt give me an answer. I dont know what to say to him, or how to put my emotions into words. I really hate this because I love this boy. We used to talk about getting married, and me moving in with him and us having a life together one day, then BOOM we have this horrible "taking a break" break up. You see, he called it "taking a break", but i think he really wants it to be over, ESPECIALLY after hes already talking to someone? Its been really hard for me the past few days, and I just want to tell him how I feel without getting into an arguement, but i think thats all it would cause. If this new female and him start dating, im never going to take him back, i will find me someone worth my time, and my childs time. Its amazing how you can see peoples true colors after a break up. Love is blind, i guess.

Thanks for listening.

[*Zatanna*]

I can only imagine how you must be feeling right now. I think it's really soon (and pretty obnoxious) for him to not only be talking to another girl, but to talk to you about it. Although, I do think it would be nice for you two to form a friendship in which you both felt comfortable talking to each other about who you might be dating, because it truly effects the child. It's just too soon and your emotions are too raw right now for you to be able to accept him moving on and there's nothing wrong with that.

I think that the "taking a break" was a flakey way for him to end the relationship. Even if it really was a *break*, more than likely you will not be able to deal with idea of him being with another woman - especially when you are at home with the baby. (I speak from experience. Although my circumstances were different. I wasn't emotionally involved with the father of my child, but everytime a guy would end a relationship with me, it was always so damn hard to imagine him out...gah.. especially being physical with another woman because I felt so lonely. Especially during the first year of my son's life).

Right now, the best thing for you to do is to spend your time with your baby and focus on her. Children have a way of putting perspective in life. I can't honestly say when (or if) it will ever get easier, but time truly does heal most emotional scars.