"Taking Time Apart" Options

[Legato]

Hello,

Im new here and I have a couple thoughts on my mind that could use some insight. I'll try and type this the best I can as Im not that great of a writer.

I suffer from depression. Its been an off and on thing for the last few months but recently became kind of "full blown" cause I let some issues stay unresolved with me for a long time. Now I've been going to counseling and stuff, doing my best to get support and learn how to get better.

The thing is, it kind of scared/upset my gf who I have been going out with for a little over a half a year. Now she wants to "take time apart" while I resolve my issues and some issues thats shes been having in her life I guess that I really dont know of or are sketchy about. We both expressed interest in getting back together after we resolve those issues, but the whole "time apart" deal does not make any sense at all to me. I mean everyone has problems. Some you can deal with, and some will always stay with you. For example, my depression. Its a medical condition alot of people have and it will always be there lingering in the background, but only I can make things better for myself to get back to my normal day by day life. I know thats going to take a little time though.

Do you think taking a break from each other (Although there was really no choice in it. We decided to stick together and support each other, then she broke it off a day or two later) was really beneficial at all? I really dont know whats going on in her life but do you think if we did happen to get together that it might cause problems for us in the future (unresolved issues of sorts)? Or does it kind of seem like an excuse/shield from something?

I hope I wrote that clear enough. Any advice on this would be very greatful. Feel free to ask me questions also

[Just_Dream]

Hm... You're right about the fact that everyone has problems they have to deal with.

With that being said, keep in mind that taking time apart can either strengthen a relationship or cause it to crumble. Most of the time, it's the latter.

A relationship usually only strengthens from separation because it makes both partners miss each other more and more, then they realilze their mistakes and start to change, for the better, in order to repair their damaged relationship. It can be beneficial

Whereas, whatever relationship you have left will crumble, since separation can easily cause a person to want to split and try new things. I mean think about it, taking time apart will make her more vulnerable towards other guys, since she won't have you around. Right? Definitely not beneficial.

I would have to say that the "time apart" ordeal IS beneficial only because it really IS a test of love and support. Can you really support yourself and be able to get over your depression? Yes I know it's a medical condition, but who knows, soon things might change. Then you'll be able to support yourself and be happy with yourself and life, enotionally and mentally. Maybe all the issues will get resolved, where neither of you two will let any complcations in your lives get in the way of love.

If you get back together again, things should be different. ONLY get back together if you two are both mutually ready for it. You both need to ask yourselves whether or not you two will be able to help each other deal with those problems in your lives, and be able to support each other. It must've been hard on her to break it off, so it should be better the next time around.

A little random, but.. have you ever heard of the saying, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me" or something like that? Irrelevant, but I just wanted to say that.