Spanking Children, does it solve anything? Options

[jEllyBeaNs]

do you think spanking or hitting your children teaches them right from wrong? do you think its wrong or do you think its right? wut would you do to your kids to disiplin (sp) them?

[demolished]

Spanking does solve problems, not all of it but ... spanking more than enough can cripple a child's self-esteem, affections, memory, and parent awareness.

When i was a child, both of my brothers accused me of breaking things. My mother would ram my head against the floor, crush my head against the smith, smack me with a long tree stick filled pointy thorns, slap me in the face, and so much more.

i grew up so without much family love. I only grew with drama. I was almost completely on my own. I no longer feel loved or care by anyone in the family because whatever bad happens to me, my mother tells EVERYONE about how terrible i was, especially my classmate's mother, teacher, relatives, staff members, and all. I end up being a "loner" due to obvious reasons. What else? It affected my social skills and self-image. How did it affect me?

- I got flat dead cheeks, stretch marks between my eyes, and more stretch marks above my eye browns, and what else? Oh yeah, i wear hearing aids which is an electronic hearing device that helps me to hear better by increasing distance in my environment. So ... what do I look like right now? Personally, i look like CRAP. Recently, my moms directly shove the fact that she kept to herself in my face, “you're not attractive".


- i have a lot of difficulty with communication. I'm very awfully quiet and tranquil back in the days. My English skills are terrible. This is why I’m ELD classes for about eight years in school. Do you know what I realize? I’m like … the only one in H.S who was born here and cannot use proper English unlike 99.9% Americans in H.S. Even fobs can speak 1000000000000 times better than me in about just four years. I mean, cbers … look at me, do I type like a fob that cannot use “right” English? I’m sure you do, right? How many grammatical errors do you see?

I lost my family spirit through the years for every holiday such Chinese New Year, birthday, and special occasions. Whenever i had family dinner, I am always being humiliated by family, they would have conversations about my looks, school, how stupid i am, what i did wrong in the past, and how much i "grew" from this so called "mistake". There was so much nonsense going through my mind while i was quiet.
Therefore, I am used to being "hated" and “judged” for who I am.

I never mean anything much to my parent. All the” similes” and “happiness” that they saw ... were so believably fake, not real. It was all about drama. Yes, DRAMA.


At this point of my life, I am not a typical happy Chinese boy. I do not even like my dad at ALL than my mom. There are times when I just hated my mother for her lame attitude toward me. Sheesh, she needs to calm down and listen, stop going ballistic on herself. Another thing was … when my brother announces a trip for the entire male in the family; I automatically react to saying negative things to my brother such as “no “ … “father …eh?”, and “ I don’t want father to come along with us”.

Well, that's too bad for the family. It is such a big ashamed for me to be in it. I'm already a messed-up negative child. I do things that i want to do ... I never do things for the sake of family, never. I'm badly influenced and rise by parents who is completely ALMOST illiterate in America which means, my parents aren’t well uneducated due to restrictions, poor society, or drugs problems.

As a result from living with a family, i consider myself a spoil brat who doesn’t appreciate much in the family. I just take things and not thinking back. Why? Like I say, spanking can cause social abilities and self-image (scars) which involves with bad memory. Another thing is that it destroys my basic judgments of what’s right or wrong.

Therefore, parents are children's basic needs. Parents are naturally the one who settle examples for their kids. Parents are the one who shape children's personality and interests. Somewhere in the future, kids will transform their personality to something that is suitable for themselves.
Yeah, I somewhat “transform” this traits to something else base on who I am.
For an example:

If you're a horrible BAD parent (does drugs, bad parties all night, and etc ...), you'll most likely have a weak child who will struggle in school education.


This is why i think parent should be more ... understandings?