developing a crush on a close friend?, first time this has happened to me Options

[lexaa621]

yeah so i've known this girl for about 3 years. last summer we became pretty good friends, and gradually we've gotten closer and closer to each other. i was never really attracted to her or desperate to meet her or anything, but she ended up becoming one of my best friends. a few weeks ago my other friend told me she thinks this girl likes me. i had never thought about it before. after i realized she could possibly like me, i realized it would actually make me happy if she did. then i kinda started liking her. but now it feels like it was a mistake. i'm starting to think theres no way she could like me anymore than a friend. she kinda stopped doing things that could imply she likes me. i kinda wanted to admit to her how i felt, but i was scared it could screw up our friendship, and make things awkward if it turned out she never liked me that way. i ended up telling her i had a crush on a friend, but i wasnt sure what to do about it. we talked about it and she gave me advice and all that, not knowing it was her i was talking about. i'm not sure if it was a good idea for me to bring that up.

i'm not sure if this post is making sense, but i was hoping some people could give me advice whether or not to admit to this girl that i kinda like her. i'm not gonna bother giving signs that imply she likes me cuz then everyone will most likely be like "oh yeah she definitely likes you" so instead i'll give things she does that show she DOESNT like me:

-she says she doesnt have a crush on anyone and thinks liking someone is a pain in the ass
-when i joke around saying how sexy i am she calls me delusional
-she used to talk to me a lot on AIM and would talk to me when she was supposed to be working but now i almost always have to IM her first

ehh.
props to anyone who reads all this.
advice please?

[*mipadi*]

So you like her, but don't want to tell her. The best way to deal with this is to figure out why you don't want to tell her.

First, go through and think of all the reasons you don't want to tell her. Write them down. Seriously. Take some time—fifteen, twenty minutes of thinking, maybe even more. Come up with a good, complete list.

Now, look at all those reasons and decide if any of them are valid. Do they make sense, or are you just avoiding telling her because it is the "easy" way out? Are there any strong, legitimate reasons for not telling her?

Make a list of reasons why it would be a good idea to tell her. Compare them to your refined list of reasons not to, and then decide if it is a good idea.

The key here is to figure out why you are not doing what you think you should do. You want to tell her, but you haven't yet, and you're afraid to. So figure out why you're afraid to tell her. Specific reasons, not vague reasons. That might help you come to a decision.

Good luck.