familial relationships affect, romantic relationships? Options

[nightowl89]

So this is kind of a jumble of thoughts...intersting/a bit odd...

This is kind of a freudian idea, but I think ur relationships with famliy members affects ur romantic relationships. at least to some extent....

Personally, I have a dominant older bro. I really looked up to him as a kid (now we're friends and pretty equal)...I tend to attract pretty confident older guys. my dad's kinda submissive, really loving, but i never really connected with him. When i was younger I always crushed on daredevil assholes. thankfully I out grew that. since I dont' really talk a lot with my dad, I really love it when I can communicate well with guys. I also didn't have like any guyfriends until basically highschool. I guess because I didn't really have a relaitonship with my dad and only a haphazard one with my bro...he was a very moodly teen (lol) hmm...and my mom. I hate how she puts my dad down sometimes...which i think is why I really look for a guy I can look up to but treats me as an equal (again the weird bro paralell) I'm the closest with my mom, she loves her kids to death and works so hard for us. But I dont' think she loves or even respects my dad anymore...which makes me want to really love and respect whoever I end up with (ive never had a real bf yet)

The reason I got to thinking about this was becuz my crush's younger sis was kinda bitchy to me when we were all at this summer thing. She would ignore me when i was literally 2 ft away from her, tlak to everyone else except me...i guess i could have tried harder to be friendly... but still. It was probably becasue she sensed something between me and her bro, they're close, but her friends were throwing themselves at him and she had no problem. And the topic of siblings came up a bunch of times when i was talking to my crush too...it was all very odd. I felt like I was in competition with his sis! Shes a yr older than me and he's a year older than her...so I guess its understandable that he sees me partially as a younger sis type friend. But ther's definetely romantic chemistry between us too, and he's shown me he really cares. this whole sis thing just made me wonder...am I always going to be at least partially a "baby sis" to all my guys?

...if u made it this far, thanks Any thoughts? Do you see any strange paralells between your relationships with family memebers and ur romantic relationships?

[nightowl89]

Actually I think I kinda patched things up with the sis...i friended her on facebook and sent her a message along the lines of "hey hope everythings great" and she said "its good to hear from you, thanks for sending me a message ;-) hoep everythings good for u too" yep...with a smiley face! It was 2 yrs ago, I think we all grew up. And she realized i was a genuine person I guess...do i see a green light?

i believe in the end.. you make the final decisions on how to act in certain situations.. so even if you come for a family with familial issues.. your furutre family will not necessarily be bad

^yeppp

And i didn't mean the whole "am i going to be a younger sis wth all guys" in a pessimistic way. Its a little frusturating sometimes, but hey, ive been attracting the kinda guys I want to: polite, nice, funny and cute. So hopefully if i stick around long enough...something will finally "click", right? Whooo knowwws...im only 16, i gotta while.