What is wrong with me?, I just don't understand. Options

[*Teenage Mutant Ninja Meg*]

I'm smart, funny, outgoing, nice, kind, EVERYTHING. Maybe I don't have the fittest body, a bit of chunk here and there, but I'm not entirely ugly or anything. I just don't understand why I haven't found at least one guy that feels something for me. Maybe it's just wrong place, wrong time... Has anybody else experienced this frustration with the opposite sex?!

[Chii]

You're still young, nothing is wrong with you. Quite frankly, nowadays it doesn't matter if there's anything wrong with you anyway, people aren't as superficial as they once where, especially a few years down the road.

I've always been in a relationship since I was 14, I always had a boyfriend and/or always had someone like me, etc. Trust me, it's not what you want. You might think "Are you crazy?? I wish I had guys want me!" Having guys want you isn't a good thing, it brings about jealousy from other girls, gossip (usually from those same girls), and it's just lots of unnecessary drama.

Just hold onto who you are and focus on your studies, school should be your top priority right now. With those boys taking up all my thoughts, I messed up in school and I have to make up for that. Don't get caught up in stupid boys, you need your education. That's way more important than your immature male peers.

[*Teenage Mutant Ninja Meg*]

You're still young, nothing is wrong with you. Quite frankly, nowadays it doesn't matter if there's anything wrong with you anyway, people aren't as superficial as they once where, especially a few years down the road.

I've always been in a relationship since I was 14, I always had a boyfriend and/or always had someone like me, etc. Trust me, it's not what you want. You might think "Are you crazy?? I wish I had guys want me!" Having guys want you isn't a good thing, it brings about jealousy from other girls, gossip (usually from those same girls), and it's just lots of unnecessary drama.

Just hold onto who you are and focus on your studies, school should be your top priority right now. With those boys taking up all my thoughts, I messed up in school and I have to make up for that. Don't get caught up in stupid boys, you need your education. That's way more important than your immature male peers.

Thank you. I really took this to heart. I am lonely, but I'm not desprate to have a boyfriend... I'm just confused as to why no guy has ever really confronted me. I mean, I've been complimented by guys before, but I've never really dated. I think it's just me not being very social. I'm going to try and get out a little more, but I'm definitely focused on my studies (and I'm doing very well in school)!

I can relate to your situation. Back when I was in high school, I was pretty unsuccessful in terms of relationships. I chalked it up to not being "cool" or "handsome" enough, or girls being superficial and "stupid". But that wasn't it at all. I was an okay guy. I looked fine. My problem was in a lack of self-confidence. I was too afraid to take a chance.

Your situation seems similar. Guys like confidence. As crazy as it sounds, it really does attract them—that's why girls who are sure of themselves seem to get all the guys. I'd say just examine who you are, and be happy with that person. You might not always get the guy you want, but eventually you'll meet someone really, really cool with whom you are a perfect fit.

Thanks, mipadi. It's great to have a guy's perspective on this as well. I see myself as a pretty confident girl... I used to be so self-conscious though, and I still am a bit. But who isn't? Anyway, I do have my eye on this guy that my friend Ben knows... However, I won't let him get to my head.

Thanks again!

Nope, i never went through that. I mean guys come and go. Patient is the thing. Just wait, and before you know it, you'll see plenty of guys waiting for you, instead of you waiting for them. Fatness? Some girls THINK they are fat, when they are skinny and they starve themselves, that really kills the health. Just exercise.

I do excersize daily, and I eat pretty healthy. I'm going to a nutritionist later on in the month, so perhaps that'll help boost my confidence a bit.

Thanks!