First boyfriend..., already making out! help! Options

[shadowchild]

Okay, I just got my very first boyfriend last night. And like 5 minutes after he asked me out we had our first kiss. It was the first time for both of us. Then a few hours later we started making out. Now, we both liked it at the time, but now we are both thinkign that we went too far. We weren't even going out for a day. Now we both agreed to slow up and wait, but how can I hold myself back?

Sorry if I sound like a baby about this, but I'm afraid of going even further when we've only been going out for a day.

[Kounouri]

a lot of people are saying that making out isn't a big deal, especially at your age... but i can see where you're coming from when you say it is. my ex and i dated for ten months.. we made out a couple weeks in and for the rest of the relationship i didn't want to go very much further because my morals, well i don't believe in really fooling around. he got bored, and a little frustrated, and whenever i let myself do more i'd get really guilty.

the point is, if you both see it the same way then it won't be hard to hold back. you will both know when the moment is coming so you can simply distract yourselves. but, if he's saying he agrees when he really doesn't, then you have to worry about him pressuring you.

there's nothing wrong with feeling that way. just stick to your guns and don't force yourself to do something you don't want to do... LISTEN TO YOUR CONCSIENCE. Even if you feel like you want to do something, but a small part of your mind says not to, it's okay to listen to that small part.

in the end its up to you. there's nothing wrong with going with your feelings, and there's also nothing wrong with going with your mind. it's all written in your morals. if he's okay with it and you're okay with it, then just avoid opportunities to make out and stop yourself when you do.

and most of all, don't let him force you if he changes his mind.