Long distance: Making it work, going to college Options

[anoniez]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months now, I'm a senior in high school and he's a junior. We're both quite committed and I was wondering about the college long-distance thing. Neither of us want to end it just because I'll be going to college next year, but it's quite a long distance - I'll probably be going to Emory in Atlanta, Georgia- and we're both in Texas right now. It's not like he could drive to see me on the weekends or anything.

On the one hand, I don't want to miss out on anything in college because I'm still tied up back home. Both of us are quite unhappy even over short separations like vacation over winter break and this invariably results in a couple arguments as both of us feel neglected by the other. On the other hand, though, I've been through a really bad breakup before and it almost crushed me, and that relationship had only been 3 months and I hadn't cared for the guy nearly as much as I do for my current bf. I'm afraid that if we break up now I'll really regret it - to tell the truth, I wouldn't mind marrying him (he feels the same). Although of course we aren't considering it that seriously, it's still a nice dream to have =)

One thing I was considering was to transfer to Rice University sophomore year (he'd probably have no trouble getting in next year) and we could both go together. I don't really want to direct where I'm going to college just for him, but with Rice it's a different situation cause I've wanted to go there ever since I was little anyway.

I know what you guys are gonna say: break up with him now, start over in college, etc etc. But I really feel like I have a chance with this guy. So anyone have any tips on how to make it work?

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

I think you should stay together && try to make it work.. && if it doesn't work out in the long run then you know now that it wasn't meant to be instead of thinking well what could have happened if I would have done this. You know what I'm trying to say?.. But yeahh thats great that you guys have stayed commited for 9 monthes now!!.. I wish you both the best of luck with that.. My boyfriend is a junior right now && I'm a freshman && I'm worried about him b/c right now he's visiting colleges in California && I'm in Ohio && that's such a long distance, but yeahh if you want to continue talking about this message me b/c this post really sparks my interest. I really want to know more.. && hear more responses from people who have done long distance relationships && how they've got through it && if they had their hard time && good times but still remained together you know.. But yeahh I'm scared right now too.. It's a scary thought b/c college is completely different from high school && the maturity levels are wayy off && that could cause some dilemas I'm guessing. My boyfriend says we'll make it through but I don't know.. I mean I'm not guessing the relationship.. I'm jusst guessin whether he'll stay commited.. it's not like I can jusst walk on over to see how he's doing.. I mean he's going to be basically a million miles away it might as well be another planet you know.. Well anyways I'm going to end it.. I talked more about myself then talking about what you should do.. But I say jusst go for it.. && jusst go with what you are feeling.. There is a chance you could get hurt, but if thats a chance that you're willing to take then I say jusst take it!!.. GOOD LUCK!!..