Long distance: Making it work, going to college Options

[anoniez]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months now, I'm a senior in high school and he's a junior. We're both quite committed and I was wondering about the college long-distance thing. Neither of us want to end it just because I'll be going to college next year, but it's quite a long distance - I'll probably be going to Emory in Atlanta, Georgia- and we're both in Texas right now. It's not like he could drive to see me on the weekends or anything.

On the one hand, I don't want to miss out on anything in college because I'm still tied up back home. Both of us are quite unhappy even over short separations like vacation over winter break and this invariably results in a couple arguments as both of us feel neglected by the other. On the other hand, though, I've been through a really bad breakup before and it almost crushed me, and that relationship had only been 3 months and I hadn't cared for the guy nearly as much as I do for my current bf. I'm afraid that if we break up now I'll really regret it - to tell the truth, I wouldn't mind marrying him (he feels the same). Although of course we aren't considering it that seriously, it's still a nice dream to have =)

One thing I was considering was to transfer to Rice University sophomore year (he'd probably have no trouble getting in next year) and we could both go together. I don't really want to direct where I'm going to college just for him, but with Rice it's a different situation cause I've wanted to go there ever since I was little anyway.

I know what you guys are gonna say: break up with him now, start over in college, etc etc. But I really feel like I have a chance with this guy. So anyone have any tips on how to make it work?

[silver-rain]

Yeah, stay together. If you two are really into each other, then you will find a way to make your relationship work. I'm kind of in the same position. My boyfriend is a year older, so he's in college right now. Our relationship isn't really long distance though; he goes to school in the same city where we live, and so we see each other once a week usually. I understand where you're going with the whole start over in college, but if you do break up, you probably will regret it. But if you're both fully committed to each other, you will find a way to make this work, and you can always transfer to Rice to be with him next year, if that's where he's going to apply to.
You can always go back to visit him during breaks, etc. Keep in contact, if it's online or on the phone. But yeah, you guys aren't that far from each other.