Showing No Affection |
 Mar 12 2006, 07:27 PM
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 I come from East Oakland where the youngstas get hyphy!  Group: Member Posts: 1,821 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,942  |
Well I have been going out with my boyfriend for two months now, and he never shows any affection toward me. By that I mean hugs, kisses, etc. (you know) Im kind of worried though. I mean at least a hug every now and then would be cool, but he's never (ever) really touched me once, and Im confused about it. I thought it might have something to do with the fact that Im a virgin and he's not, but I dont know. I feel so unloved. What should I do? I dont know how to tell him how I feel about that.
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Mar 12 2006, 08:21 PM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
Put simply, he's losing interest in you. He cares less about what you think about him, so he doesn't feel a need to hug or kiss you. How do you fix that? Invite him out to dinner. Surprise him. Give him a gift. Just wake him up, so he really knows what's up.
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Mar 13 2006, 12:21 AM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
QUOTE(Paradox of Life @ Mar 12 2006, 5:21 PM)  Put simply, he's losing interest in you. He cares less about what you think about him, so he doesn't feel a need to hug or kiss you. How do you fix that? Invite him out to dinner. Surprise him. Give him a gift. Just wake him up, so he really knows what's up. Uhhh .... I disagree with that. He probably doesn't know whether or not it's alright if he can make moves on you, so he ends up getting nervous and not doing anything. My friend Saraya's boyfriend was like that the first time he ever met her, he wouldn't do anything with her for a while because he respected her too much and wanted her to be very very sure of what she was doing with him. All the while Saraya was also thinking "Wtf ? Why aint this boy kissin' me and huggin' me and whatnot ?" And it turned out he didn't want her to think he was pressuring her into doing anything she wasn't ready for. I think that's what he might be doing with you. Just either ask him about it, or make a move on him. Pucker up those lips and let him see a lil' but of what he was missin (: |
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Mar 13 2006, 12:25 AM
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I come from East Oakland where the youngstas get hyphy! Group: Member Posts: 1,821 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,942 |
QUOTE b' date='Mar 12 2006, 9:21 PM' post='1944471'] Uhhh .... I disagree with that. He probably doesn't know whether or not it's alright if he can make moves on you, so he ends up getting nervous and not doing anything. My friend Saraya's boyfriend was like that the first time he ever met her, he wouldn't do anything with her for a while because he respected her too much and wanted her to be very very sure of what she was doing with him. All the while Saraya was also thinking "Wtf ? Why aint this boy kissin' me and huggin' me and whatnot ?" And it turned out he didn't want her to think he was pressuring her into doing anything she wasn't ready for. I think that's what he might be doing with you. Just either ask him about it, or make a move on him. Pucker up those lips and let him see a lil' but of what he was missin (: Yeah I see what you mean. I think my bf is like your friend's, but that's not cool though. Im hella gonna talk to him about that too. I guess Im gonna have to be the bigger person and make the move. Thanks for the advice Bella. It helped. Taking things slow sucks. |
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Mar 13 2006, 10:41 AM
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 in the reverb chamber. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,022 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 300,308 |
QUOTE(Im So Vain @ Mar 12 2006, 11:25 PM) Yeah I see what you mean. I think my bf is like your friend's, but that's not cool though. Im hella gonna talk to him about that too. I guess Im gonna have to be the bigger person and make the move. Thanks for the advice Bella. It helped. Taking things slow sucks. What isn't cool about it? Talk to him? Maybe he needs to talk to you. Be the bigger person and make the move? So, you were waiting for him to do it the entire time, as if it were his responsibility? Maybe he feels that he is lacking affection from you. Maybe he respects your space and doesn't want to offend you, ever. Taking things slow sucks? I don't really agree, but stop whinning and do something about it. You have just as much control in initiated affection as he does. I mean, it is a relationship, isn't it? 
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Im So Vain Showing No Affection Mar 12 2006, 07:27 PM
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