"I'm Not Sure...", This one cut me deep... Options

[SSJ Kenshin]

Okay, so my gf and I have been dating for well over a year, now, and I have to admit, we don't see much of each other anymore, (she's a hs senior, and I'm a freshman in college), but I digress.

Anyway, about two weeks ago, we were playing this game over the phone. We would ask each other questions, and the other had to answer truthfully. We did this for a full three nights, and it really opened our eyes, as we learned a lot about the other.That is, until I asked my final question; the moment things went bad...

The question was, "Do you consider yourself in love in this relationship?"

Her answer was, "I'm not sure"

I got a little angry, and I asked why she felt that way, and she said she didn't trust me fully yet, because she had a bad past with boyfriends, even though this is easily the longest relationship either one of us has been involved in. It kinda hurt that between November of 2004 and now, she didn't trust me.

Now, I find myself questioning my feelings for her entirely. I wish I hadn't asked that stupid question.

This is where you come in, Cb Crowd. What should I do?

[oOjenniOo]

huh, thats quite funny cause i feel exactly how that girl feels.

me and my bf have been dating for a little over 5 months (okay so its not as long as your relationship) but lately he's been occupied with his school sport and we never talk on the phone anymore. so since we go to different schools, im hoping when we see eachother we'll be able to catch up/talk instead of doing stuff.

well i brought up that question, "Where do you feel in this relationship?" and we both just kind of told eachother honestly. and i just couldn't help wondering if there was a spark still, was it dead just because it seems like we don't spend time together anymore? i am constantly asking myself if i truly am "in love" or whatever. maybe i just like him a lot, its hard to tell.

do something cute for her to show that you want it to work. honestly, if my bf did that to me at this point after such a tense, awkward discussion of trust, love etc. i would be completely flattered and it might remind me of those first feelings i had for him. cute as in surprise her somewhere, where you know she'll be with a present of some sort. or do something compltely out there that she would definitely expect. surprises are good.

hope it helped. tell me how things went.

*something completely out there that she WON'T expect.