"I'm Not Sure...", This one cut me deep... |
 Feb 26 2006, 06:52 PM
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Okay, so my gf and I have been dating for well over a year, now, and I have to admit, we don't see much of each other anymore, (she's a hs senior, and I'm a freshman in college), but I digress.
Anyway, about two weeks ago, we were playing this game over the phone. We would ask each other questions, and the other had to answer truthfully. We did this for a full three nights, and it really opened our eyes, as we learned a lot about the other.That is, until I asked my final question; the moment things went bad... The question was, "Do you consider yourself in love in this relationship?" Her answer was, "I'm not sure" I got a little angry, and I asked why she felt that way, and she said she didn't trust me fully yet, because she had a bad past with boyfriends, even though this is easily the longest relationship either one of us has been involved in. It kinda hurt that between November of 2004 and now, she didn't trust me. Now, I find myself questioning my feelings for her entirely. I wish I hadn't asked that stupid question.  This is where you come in, Cb Crowd. What should I do? |
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Mar 3 2006, 08:00 PM
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Take your time to show her that your not like her past bf's. If you stick around, and try to do little thing's for her, she will slowly notice that. Good luck with everything, sorry i'm not much help!
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Mar 9 2006, 03:17 PM
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QUOTE(ChEeR A HOliC Xo @ Mar 3 2006, 8:00 PM)  Take your time to show her that your not like her past bf's. If you stick around, and try to do little thing's for her, she will slowly notice that. Good luck with everything, sorry i'm not much help! I'd agree with that one - by over-thinking and over-stressing about your thoughts and feelings and then changing your mind about her would make her think that no man was right for her. If you really did love her, than you should care enough to love her through this difficulty of hers in regards to the relationship. Keep talking to her, and maybe in a little while, do something special for her - but don't rush it after the conversation. Show her how special you are at the right time. In a case like this, I wouldn't be suprised if she was really in love, but didn't want to admit to it, or was scared to say she was in "love" for the sake of being vulnerable. If you two have been together for well over a year, don't let this get in the way of the relationship. Patience is a virtue after all, and being patient with her would allow her to release her feelings and discover the love that has been there all along. Hope that helped... |
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SSJ Kenshin "I'm Not Sure..." Feb 26 2006, 06:52 PM
upf147 eek...rough situation, i dont know what to tell yo... Feb 26 2006, 07:19 PM FoxBandCutie08 I have to say that I've been in that situation... Feb 26 2006, 07:43 PM _sarcastic_ don't get mad at her, i had some trust issues ... Feb 27 2006, 05:08 PM xblueradiance She's probably just a little hesitant/cautious... Feb 27 2006, 05:48 PM Blow_Don't_SUCK Let her learn to trust you a bit more. If a girl h... Feb 27 2006, 06:19 PM
Levy2k6 QUOTE(Blow_Don't_SUCK @ Feb 27 2006, 5... Feb 27 2006, 06:26 PM mipadi I can certainly respect a person who takes things ... Feb 28 2006, 10:15 AM iNyCxShoRT Me and my boyfriend play that game too, we call it... Feb 28 2006, 10:27 PM angel_revelation i don't think you should really get mad at her... Feb 28 2006, 10:58 PM nightowl89 I think shes being honest with you and this was he... Mar 1 2006, 05:19 PM SSJ Kenshin QUOTE(nightowl89 @ Mar 1 2006, 5:19 PM) I... Mar 2 2006, 11:23 AM Robyn Leigh I understand that distance is difficult. I've ... Mar 1 2006, 05:41 PM Blow_Don't_SUCK ^Doing something special is always nice but don... Mar 2 2006, 04:32 PM lit0chinagirl sure, it hurts a little knowing that your girl of ... Mar 2 2006, 07:00 PM ursedonah dont take it too personally, some people have a th... Mar 9 2006, 03:09 PM oOjenniOo huh, thats quite funny cause i feel exactly how th... Mar 11 2006, 11:17 PM APPLEjuicex hmm..well, you guys have been dating for over a ye... Mar 12 2006, 10:13 AM |
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