I'm so love sick, I don;t know what to do Options

[Blk`SpY]

Man, I’ve never in my entire like EVER had a girlfriend. So many times I could have had a girl but something went wrong, and it mostly had to do with my second guessing myself. I really have no confidence in my looks even though I’ve been called cute more times than ugly by girls. I jus don’t know how to come at a girl it’s so hard….But I can talk to girls. I tend to have a lot of girl “friends” but not relationship wise. Girls do think I have a nice personality and really sweet. But I can’t get them to know I like them… What probably is the easy thing for a guy to do is the most complicated to me. But I met this girl a couple of months ago…and we really clicked off she was soo interested in me. I really thought she was pulling my leg. But this girl was incredibly beautiful; I’ve never attracted a more beautiful woman. So weeks past and are feelings were getting stronger and I really thought I could finally have a girlfriend and a beautiful one at that! She finally told me she loved me but I didn’t say it back I more like agreed, she expressed all her deep feelings for me and it was heart warming. But then I started to get busy and we didn’t talk as much, we didn’t talk for like I think 2 or 3 weeks straight. And all those weeks was really making me miss and love her more. For this girl I would go to the ends of the earth and bend over backwards. I felt that thing normal people call “Love” and it felt so good. So when we finally talked I told her how I felt, and I jus let my heart spill out. I think she cried and she told me that she was talking to someone else and she thought I didn’t feel the sameway she did ( do to my lack of expression towards my emotions). But she said that she was going to let dude off the real easy because she really loved me more than him. But now I still see them talking and I overheard her and a friend and she said he’s still her crush. I don’t know what to do, I feel so sad inside that she would do such a thing….any suggestions?

sorry it's soo long

[EyeOfTheTiger5]

What you need to do is take the male approach - be straightforward. If you are confused, you need to bring it up, and you've said you know how to make conversation - so do it easily, not bluntly.

Next, she has said she loves you. Take her word for it! Even if you aren't sure that she loves you, act as if you ARE sure. You can offer to give advice on her relationship with the other guy, but that's her business to sort out.

I've seen this stuff before; it's very likely that what she did was assume you didn't like her back and try to find a 'replacement' for you. Obviously, that doesn't work, and once she found out you do love her, she wants to break up with the other guy. That's the part that's out of your hands.

There's a chance that's not the case, but I'm fairly sure it is.

Just keep talking to her, make sure to let her know subtly that you DO have feelings for her.

As for her saying he's still her crush... it is likely that she's trying to prolong breaking up with him until she's sure of it. And that means she'll try to hide her feelings if need be.

Bottom line, don't believe anything love-related you hear ABOUT her unless you hear it FROM her.

Talk to her.

Hope that helps :)