"I'm Not Sure...", This one cut me deep... Options

[SSJ Kenshin]

Okay, so my gf and I have been dating for well over a year, now, and I have to admit, we don't see much of each other anymore, (she's a hs senior, and I'm a freshman in college), but I digress.

Anyway, about two weeks ago, we were playing this game over the phone. We would ask each other questions, and the other had to answer truthfully. We did this for a full three nights, and it really opened our eyes, as we learned a lot about the other.That is, until I asked my final question; the moment things went bad...

The question was, "Do you consider yourself in love in this relationship?"

Her answer was, "I'm not sure"

I got a little angry, and I asked why she felt that way, and she said she didn't trust me fully yet, because she had a bad past with boyfriends, even though this is easily the longest relationship either one of us has been involved in. It kinda hurt that between November of 2004 and now, she didn't trust me.

Now, I find myself questioning my feelings for her entirely. I wish I hadn't asked that stupid question.

This is where you come in, Cb Crowd. What should I do?

[lit0chinagirl]

sure, it hurts a little knowing that your girl of one year plus doesn't fully trust you yet but it's perfectly normally. it burns to constantly go through relationships with guys that let her down. she's only doing what her own instincts and heart are telling her to do: to watch out for herself so that she doesn't end up hurt again. after something like that happens a few times, it has a lasting affect on their future relationships and perpectives. like you said, that game improved your relationship with her. as some more time passes by, you'll hopefully be more trustworthy in her mind unless you somehow prove otherwise...

don't let it affect you so much-- just remember to treat her good to keep that trust but if it really bothers you then calmly discuss it with her.