emotional abuse, my friend Options

[KERP1UNK]

okay..when i say 'my friend' i REALLY do mean my friend..its not a way of saying that its me..okay but anyway

my friend's parents are really mean to her. they literally say she's not going anywhere in life, she needs to get over herself, blah blah blah, etc. etc...its really wearing down on her and she calls me all the time in tears. she says she's going to the school counselor and wants me to go with her, and i agreed to..but she keeps getting out of it because she is CONVINCED they are going to automatically 'take her away for her parents' or 'put her up for adoption' i have told her multiple times that this won't happen..but she refuses to believe me...
she doesnt do her homework, and thats a reason why her parents are mad at her too (grades) so every day her mom makes her do her homework and she even checks to make sure it is ALL done, emails her teachers, etc... and she turns in the homework but the teacher claims she 'didnt get any of it' and her mom believes her and punishes her by grounding her (its like shes NEVER not grounded) and says really mean things to her... i feel really really bad because im afraid she might go suicidal from all of this stres... plus her little sister is always talking crap about her and cussing at her..and she is the 'favored child' ..her parents always believe her .. i really don't know what to do and i'm scared for her... please help me <33

[Paradox of Life]

Um. Welcome to LIFE. This happens to every teenage child. Maybe it's not the parents. Maybe this girl really does have a rotten attitude and deserves the emotional beating. Okay, maybe I'm being a bit tough, but growing up in an asian family where you're whipped for being bad, this isn't such a big deal. I deal with emotional abuse all the time. My parents tell me to f**k off and that they wish I was never born. Once, my parents even locked me out of the house. But then I realized, I did have a rotten attitude, and they were doing this, so I would learn. Talk to your friend about why her parents are doing this to her. It's not because they want to make her miserable.

[voguelove]

Okay, maybe I'm being a bit tough, but growing up in an asian family where you're whipped for being bad, this isn't such a big deal.

your parents whip you? isnt that abuse as well?



if you say that your friend doesnt do her hw and her teachers say she doesn't do her hw then it makes sense. her mom could be watching her while she does it but she may not be doing it all. if your friend tried really hard in school, im sure she'll do better. im asian, and im only saying asian because there's that "asian smart sterotype" that all asians are good at everything, but i was an exception. my grades weren't great but they weren't THAT bad in middle school and freshman year. i didn't find out until i was 15 (last year) that i suffer from ADD. im sure that my experiences with my dad were even worse than your friend. he yelled at me constantly telling me im not gonna make it to college. i worked my ass off just to try to do better in school without ADD medication. he also never let me go anywhere with friends. hell, i didn't hardly go anywhere last year except 3 trips to the movies. not to mention, i started going into depression after my 6 years of emotional abuse. (because my mom died when i was 9) the best way to end it all is for her to try and be perfect. perfect as a daughter, and perfect as a student. shit, its gonna be hard. and if she wants it, she can do it. it's great that you're worried about her but tell her start doing better in school. she needs to know that if she wants to leave her parents for college so she can escape them, she's gonna need to train for it.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

your parents whip you? isnt that abuse as well?

^ not in asian cultures, its not.

I agree with the others. Tell her to do her homework, that's probably one of the reasons why her parents tell her mean things.