"I'm Not Sure...", This one cut me deep... Options

[SSJ Kenshin]

Okay, so my gf and I have been dating for well over a year, now, and I have to admit, we don't see much of each other anymore, (she's a hs senior, and I'm a freshman in college), but I digress.

Anyway, about two weeks ago, we were playing this game over the phone. We would ask each other questions, and the other had to answer truthfully. We did this for a full three nights, and it really opened our eyes, as we learned a lot about the other.That is, until I asked my final question; the moment things went bad...

The question was, "Do you consider yourself in love in this relationship?"

Her answer was, "I'm not sure"

I got a little angry, and I asked why she felt that way, and she said she didn't trust me fully yet, because she had a bad past with boyfriends, even though this is easily the longest relationship either one of us has been involved in. It kinda hurt that between November of 2004 and now, she didn't trust me.

Now, I find myself questioning my feelings for her entirely. I wish I hadn't asked that stupid question.

This is where you come in, Cb Crowd. What should I do?

[upf147]

eek...rough situation, i dont know what to tell you other than tell her why she should trust you, i kind of just had the same thing happen, last night i was talking to my g/f and asked her about how she said one time about a month ago when we were talking, i said i wanted her to open up more to me, and she said she didnt want to be vulnerable. well, after a month of pondering why/what she meant, i brought it up and she said she didnt want to get hurt, she said she didnt want to fall for me and me go to college next year and her get hurt. I asked why, and if it was because it happened before and she didnt say anything (instant messanger) for six minutes, then i explained to her that i would never hurt her and that is a promise, and i swore to god, because truthfully, i wouldn't, i have too much respect, and she really appreciated me telling her what i had to say...try talking to her about it more and why she should trust you, matter of fact, i am going to finish me and my g/f's conversation in person later tonight, because i want to make sure we both understand each others side/thoughts fully.