emotional abuse, my friend Options

[KERP1UNK]

okay..when i say 'my friend' i REALLY do mean my friend..its not a way of saying that its me..okay but anyway

my friend's parents are really mean to her. they literally say she's not going anywhere in life, she needs to get over herself, blah blah blah, etc. etc...its really wearing down on her and she calls me all the time in tears. she says she's going to the school counselor and wants me to go with her, and i agreed to..but she keeps getting out of it because she is CONVINCED they are going to automatically 'take her away for her parents' or 'put her up for adoption' i have told her multiple times that this won't happen..but she refuses to believe me...
she doesnt do her homework, and thats a reason why her parents are mad at her too (grades) so every day her mom makes her do her homework and she even checks to make sure it is ALL done, emails her teachers, etc... and she turns in the homework but the teacher claims she 'didnt get any of it' and her mom believes her and punishes her by grounding her (its like shes NEVER not grounded) and says really mean things to her... i feel really really bad because im afraid she might go suicidal from all of this stres... plus her little sister is always talking crap about her and cussing at her..and she is the 'favored child' ..her parents always believe her .. i really don't know what to do and i'm scared for her... please help me <33

[ecargnmyst]

i think the reason she cant focus on her hw is b/c of her family problems..im in same situation as your friend and i know its tough..and ive been afraid to goto the counselour b/c i was afraid of the consequences..

but talking to a counselour or any teacher..they wont do anything like put ppl in jail until they talk it out w/ the parents first...however, i dont think some parents appreciate their kids going around getting them in trouble, so theyll prolly take out wtvr consequences on the kid..

altho ive been told to go to the counselour many times...i think that will only make things more complicated...what you can do as a friend is just tell her to wait it out until she graduates H.S. then go farr away from home. until then..she can only wait it out..and while waiting..just keep an eye out for her, take notice of any change in behavior, make sure she doesnt hurt herself. tell her to spend as much time away from home as possible, spend more time w/ friends to take her mind off the stuff. and if hw is causing her trouble, try to do as much hw as possible in school...b/c i know its really hard to concentrate in such an unfriendly environment w/ those parents.

and let out the stress in a creative outlet or use it as motivation to succeed in life and be above her parents. tell her dont let this experience bring her down and ruin her future =]