Polygamy?, Or is it Life? Options

[benedictkenny]

I've come to a point where I basically haven't liked any girl genuinely in a long time, and I haven't been in an official relationship in almost a year.

I can look at people and go, she's attractive, and I'd wonder what she kisses like, or how her skin feels.
I meet other girls who I'd just liked to talk to, but am not interested in physically. Like, I'd want certain aspects of a relationship.
Thinking it over last year, I didn't see why people go for "relationships." It makes no sense that you can only get something or be close to one person by excluding yourself from the rest of the world, or pretending you don't have active interest in other people, curiosity of what other people are like, and human desire, which is natural and foolish to deny in the name of "standards and society". It's a large world, with many people. Why not experience it? If I have curiousity, and some bit of information that is unfilled, that I'd like to fill, logically, I will try to fill it.

See...people associate restricting themselves from human nature with "class"
ehh, restricting is a bad word to use, but still, surprisingly, most girls are all about class.
Many of them are so concerned with "looking good in society" and "restricting themselves." They would NEVER do anything that makes it seems like they have NO CLASS, when any real person can see this, and can tell that instead, it just means that they have no self-confidence or value of their decision making ability, and ability to trust their own desires and feelings.



It's like, when you enter "relationship" territory, you're supposed to restrict yourself from achieving a closeness with other people of the opposite sex because one person is insecure, or for jealousy...and in the name of a decency...a decency which is just a ridiculous restraint created by "society".
I see why people'd subscribe to it, but it's not...great to me. Not Natural. There's more, but I talk too much for now.

Thoughts?

[*mipadi*]

Ah, a refreshingly different, cynical take on relationships, and in this forum, no less.

I don't think relationships are about "excluding others" and sequestering yourself from the world. Relationships in general, be they friendly, familial, or romantic, are about improving oneself and enjoying life. If you're way of enjoying life is not engaging in an exclusive relationship with a member of the opposite sex, than that is perfectly acceptable. Life is meant to be enjoyed, and the method of enjoyment is unique to each person. I don't think a person should have to bow to societal demands to "settle down", find a single mate, get married, have a bunch of kids, and so forth.

Likewise, though, I think romantic relationships are valuable. I think they can really help a person grow and discover himself. And I think they can help a person enjoy life as well. There's some fun and exciting about being with the one person you truly want to be with.

I also think that, as people age, the jealousy and other relative immaturity of relationships goes away; or, at least, those ugly things are merely symptoms of an unhealthy relationship. A couple who is truly in tune with each other will be above such nonsense.

Of course, two people need not feel like they have to have a romantic relationship with each other; being friends is perfectly acceptable, even in instances in which society pressures such a couple to make it something more.

Overall, I've never been very cynical about relationships. I think they're pretty cool, and I think they work out well when each person puts an equal amount of effort into them--which is an easy task if the relationship is natural and "meant to be", as they say.