Girlfriends Family Problems, :[ Options

[cookieskater2]

Yeah, it's long, and sad.

It started on Saturday when my girlfriend Holly called me in the morning. I know she had been having some family problems with her mom and dad fighting but I wasn't sure what it was about. When I answered she was crying and said "How soon could you get over here?" I asked what was wrong and she told me she'd tell me when I got there. I talked to her for a little bit longer and she just mentioned something about her dad.

When I got to her house she jumped into my arms crying. She told me that her dad was leaving them. We came inside and her Dad was packing up all sorts of things. She was still crying on my shoulder and her dad came up to me and said "I'm sorry I hurt your girlfriend, I know you love her and I'm glad she has someone like you as her boyfriend, I'm sorry, I love you Holly" And then he left. I stayed with Holly for an hour while she cried, this is something that I couldn't fix. All I want to do is make her happy and I can't fix this. I carried her outside and we walked to the dock in her park and sat there. I talked to her for a long time about everything and then we walked back to her house.(I just realised I made myself sound like an statue, I didn't just stand there while this happened, I was holding her the whole time and I wiped and kissed her tears.) Her mom was home now, she talked about some things and asked about dinner. She sometimes would get tears in her eyes when she talked. Holly would tell her that it's going to be ok. Her mom came up to me and gave me a hug while Holly went to her room. She said she was glad I came to be with Holly.

We went out for a movie that night and walked home. She called me that night and she was crying on the phone about it.

Her dad's really gone. It's so weird how he's just gone.

Tonight she called me and later during the conversation she started crying again. I stayed on the phone with her until 1:30.

"I don't understand it" How can someone who was married for 26 years suddenly not love someone anymore" "I hate telling my mom it's ok when I know its not. "I dont want to grow up this fast."

She told me to prmose her that she wouldn't get hurt again and I did. I'd do anything for her. I know for a fact I won't break up with her. Don't bring this into the advice though. I don't want to hear "BUTWHATIFYOUBREAKUPWITHHER?"

I felt so helpless, All I could do was say I was so sorry, and that I love her more than anything. Life is hard, and you can't always fix the things that go wrong.

What can I do?

I love her so much, but I'm helpless. All I want to do is make her happy, but I can't fix this.

She keeps crying and it hurts so much to watch her sad.

[Chii]

umm...though you seem very nice and want to make her happy again you shouldn't have promised her that she won't get hurt again because she will get hurt again. maybe not by you or her family but she most likely will be hurt again. the only promise that can be kept is death.

i understand that she doesn't want to grow up so fast but it could have been way worse. many people would have loved to be scarred this way than by the ways they have been. i honestly don't see what the fuss is about...it's not her fault and her parents aren't blaming her. plus, her dad loves her, he'll visit her or let her visit him. in time, things will get better.

but just keep talking to her and help her get through this, there's always light at the end of the tunnel.