"You're being spoiled... just give him a chance" Options

[angelrevelation]

(read below v) has anyone else felt like this? what do you think the reason was? (for not liking someone so deserving) because 'no connection' seems like a lame excuse...

one of my guy friends likes me. he has for a while now... but it's really awkward because he's like always trying to impress me, and it just comes off as annoying. we aren't close at all. i think the only reason he became my 'friend' was because he liked me.

now, everyone knows he likes me, and like my friends are trying to help him out and are sort of pressuring me to 'accept' him. i guess the idea of me finally getting a boyfriend is cute. and yes, i'm supposedly being spoiled and vain. but i'm not. it's not about looks. i've recently liked a guy 'less good looking' then him (everyone else thinks so... it doesn't matter!). i just don't like him because there's no connection.

but he's such a nice guy... and it makes me really sad that i cant like him back. i just get really irritated around him, no matter how hard i try to see the motives behind it.

[Chii]

oh my god i know how that feels. this one guy i used to talk to kept saying all this sh*t about how conceited i was all the time, he should really get a damn dictionary. i told him i didn't want to hear anything or talk about my ex at all anymore. what does he do the next minute? tell me what my ex told him. then i b*tch at him then he goes "why are you so conceited?" what the f*ck kind of sense does that make?!?! my ex stalked me and called me many many times DAILY and the guy was all "you should be happy that he likes you so much, stop being so conceited!" who the f*ck would want someone to stalk them?? i was tired of his retarded logic so i blocked him

but anyway, this is stupid and annoying. just tell them that it's nice that they want you to have a boyfriend but you just don't like him. you are not being vain at all, your heart decides. if you say it's not there, it's really not. your friends don't know what's in your heart so they can't decide who you date.

tell him that you appreciate that he likes you so much but you're sorry, it's really not going to happen beacuse you truly, honestly feel that it's not there.