Honesty, The Only Medicine Options

[fameONE]

Looking back on all of my previous relationships, and dating experiences, one thing remains the same; you must be honest.

And by honesty, I'm referring to a lot more than just speaking your mind, or saying what's on your heart, but from the getgo, it is important to be straightforward about your intentions.

So you don't want a relationship? Ok, thats fine. Don't front like you do.

If you can honestly tell someone that all you want is to "_____," then be sure that you're clear about it.

Why get involved with someone, tell them you want a relationship or something deeper than simply a friendship, then why mislead them into believing otherwise?

Though being honest with your significant other is important, what's more important is being honest with yourself. If you got used, you probably saw it coming, or the clues were right in front of your face and you ignored them.

If you're feeling remorse for using someone else, and you claim it was unintentional, then more than likely, you're solely responsible for their heartache and emotional anguish.

Be honest.

[Chii]

honesty hasn't worked in my favor. i don't like lying or lies. so i told my ex everything he wanted to know when we were still together and he threw it all back in my face. not only did him reminding me of those things hurt, but the fact that he used my honesty against me.

i was quite experienced for the age i was when we started dating. i wanted to be upfront and actually, he knew about it before we started dating, when we were close friends. but when i looked at myself i didn't like who i was and i didn't want to be that girl anymore. but he would always be "you did that with so and so" or "i'm your boyfriend and so and so wasn't but you still did that with him."

i do not believe that i was used, however i should have foreseen this. he was very controlling and possesive.

in many other cases, i agree with you on the being honest with yourself thing. some people are just so obsessed with finding and being with "the one" that they let so many things go just so they can carry on the facade of a storybook romance.