Used for sex? Options

[rainbowish]

One of my good gay guy friends kinda used me for sex. He knew I liked him and he used that against me. Should I still be friends with him, because I still want to be friends. But he sometimes tells me he wants to be friends with benefits but should I do that after he used me first?

[rainbowish]

Sorry I have been on vacation but here are my replies.

1. What do you want from the friendship?
2. What do you believe he wants?
3. Are you upset that he wants to be friends with benifits, but does not want to develope a romantic relationship with you?
4. Would you want to be friends with benifits?
5. Have spoken to him about all this?

1. I want more than a friendship. I want to be serious with him.
2. I think he just wants sex and free drugs.
3. Yes. I mean I guess it would be okay to have sex but I would feel like trash.
4. Kinda. Sorta.
5. Yea. He stayed the night at my house one night and we slept in the same bed and he tried to get with me and I didnt let him.

Just f**k him. It's a win win situation. He gets some ass and you get to have sex with someone you like.

Not really. Im not trashy like that.

^ LOL.

wait, so you had sex with him already?

Yeah. We dated for like a day and got drunk and f**ked and then he ignored me for two days and then said he just wanted to be friends and now he wants to be friends with benefits.

did you like his sex?

Yeah. Hes hot and hes good in bed.

^My point was... It's difficult for him to let go of his friend, especially since he likes him.

You act as if everything is easy to do, learn how to empathize my friend.

//edit

You know what? Since almost everyone here is aggressive, I take back everything I said only to avoid spamming in this thread any further.

I thank you for you help. You are helpful. Thank you for sticking up for me. *Kiss*

Does he really know how you feel or does he think that your ok with being toyed with. Maybe he thinks its ..ok for what he is doing because you think its ok too.

He knows. I told him I liked him and the only thing he said was "I dont want to put our friendship at risk because of us dating. But he wants to be friends who fool around??!?!??!?!?!?

psh, you probably like the thought of him using you for his own sexual pleasure, dont deny it, you want some of his wang hhaha

No I dont. And you can go away now. Thanks.

[NoSex]

1. I want more than a friendship. I want to be serious with him.
2. I think he just wants sex and free drugs.
3. Yes. I mean I guess it would be okay to have sex but I would feel like trash.
4. Kinda. Sorta.
5. Yea. He stayed the night at my house one night and we slept in the same bed and he tried to get with me and I didnt let him.

1. Alright. Keep that in mind. You truly want a serious relationship.
2. His desires obviously do not match up with your own. It seems that either he is open about his selfish abuse of your friendship and or trust or you can easily pin him for what he is; a bit of a leeching douche.
3. Why would you feel like trash? If you enjoy sexual relations with him you really shouldn't be made to feel like trash for that. Although, at the same time, you are interested in alot more than just sex. You want a serious relationship. I would say that it would be emotional dangerous to become friends with benifits under such a situation. Let him know how you feel, and how you want sexual relations on a deeper, more commited, level. He should understand, and back off.
4. Either way, if you honestly believe you would be comfortable with that, go for it. Although, I wouldn't reccomend it. (See #3).
5. Alright.

I told him I liked him and the only thing he said was "I dont want to put our friendship at risk because of us dating. But he wants to be friends who fool around??!?!??!?!?!?

Ok. This makes everything very clear to me. He doesn't want any kind of commitment, but he stills wants your poon. With this situation, I couldn't imagine you being very comfortable with that.

Also, the surplus of exclamation and question marks helps me know that you also see something very wrong with this statement.

A deeper and more serious risk to your friendship would be fooling around and not dating. That this distinction is not made by him speaks volumes to his true friendship qualities. Sorry to break it down, but this is a user-abuser kind of relation. He is trying to get what he wants out of it by as little amount of effort, commitment, or honesty. It seems to me that there might not even be a friendship to risk.

This guy sounds like a giant douche bag, and no matter how hard it may to split ways, he doesn't seem to feel that same, as he truly does not seem to exhibit any care at all for your feelings, aside from not forcing himself on you. Settle this fast and strong. Good luck.