Dealing with Death |
 Jan 21 2006, 09:21 AM
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Hey,
I just saw my voice teacher last night and then this morning I got a call saying that her husband had died at 1:00 AM. It doesn't make any sense> He was perfectly healthy. He was out getting something to eat while I was having my lesson last night. I really want to say something or do something to help because she is my favorite teacher and one of my favorite people but I don't even know what I should do or say. How do you help someone you love when someone they loved is dead? Any suggestions are appreciated. |
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| *Zatanna* |
Jan 21 2006, 12:04 PM
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A few years back, my then assistant's husband died. She was off work for a while so there was that space. When she came back however, EVERYONE kept telling her that "God has a way" and "she'll be ok." Stuff like that. She hated it. Later she told me how much she appreciated the fact that I would listen, but didn't pursue her grief. You're in a teacher/student relationship so the dynamic is different. Still, be there for her because she is in a lot of pain right now. A card is a nice gesture, but don't ask, "are you ok?" because she isn't, and will not be for a while.
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| *Blow_Don't_SUCK* |
Jan 21 2006, 06:19 PM
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QUOTE(Zatanna @ Jan 21 2006, 1:04 PM) A few years back, my then assistant's husband died. She was off work for a while so there was that space. When she came back however, EVERYONE kept telling her that "God has a way" and "she'll be ok." Stuff like that. She hated it. Later she told me how much she appreciated the fact that I would listen, but didn't pursue her grief. You're in a teacher/student relationship so the dynamic is different. Still, be there for her because she is in a lot of pain right now. A card is a nice gesture, but don't ask, "are you ok?" because she isn't, and will not be for a while.  I kinda agree about how the "God has a way" being annoying. When my friend's boyfriend died, she hated how everyone kept mentioning it was God's will or God had a way and she would get so frustrated she would scream, "WHAT THE HELL DOES GOD HAVE TO DO WITH THIS? HE WASN'T IN THE RELATIONSHIP SO HE SHOULD STAY OUT OF OUR BUSINESS!" yeah.... |
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Little Bird Dealing with Death Jan 21 2006, 09:21 AM
Blow_Don't_SUCK Simply be there for the person. A shoulder to cry ... Jan 21 2006, 09:50 AM mzkandi Moved to Relationships Jan 21 2006, 10:48 AM K!$$ Like ^x2 said, be there but don't nag her. Jan 21 2006, 10:55 AM illumineering Sending a sympathy card with a note from you would... Jan 21 2006, 11:23 AM
Hiphop d[-_-]b QUOTE(illumineering @ Jan 21 2006, 9:23 AM)Se... Jan 21 2006, 11:50 AM FoxBandCutie08 I think the sympathy card idea is a good one. Writ... Jan 21 2006, 12:26 PM raenbow* see if you can go to the wake/funeral/anything of ... Jan 23 2006, 03:06 PM Little Bird Thank you all for the advice. I actually went to v... Jan 24 2006, 05:03 PM mouse_3k people die, its a part of life. Jan 24 2006, 10:00 PM glasseyes Well do what everyone else said to do. But be care... Jan 24 2006, 10:44 PM disco infiltrator If she looks sad or brings it up, simply say, ... Jan 24 2006, 10:48 PM |
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