i really want friends who believe in God, and im always jealous.. Options

[shesindreamland_...]

You know, I wish all my friends were Christian..and knew and loved God. I mean, right now my friends keep talking crap and hating this one girl who used to be friends with us, and theyre all like, Haha if she suicided i'd probably laugh. And all I can think is..shut UP youre nto supposed to HATE and gossip and act that way.. and i especially feel this way right now becuase ive been reading random people's xangas lately, and apparently this one guy had been in a serious accident and all of his friends, theyre all praying and saying stuff on each others xangas like, "Dont worry..hes in Gods hands.." and "God will hear every cry..just keep praying" and they even go to someones house everyday and just pray for the guy who had an accident. i mean.. to be praying with a group of best friends,getting close to God.. i WANT that feeling, you know? i dont even know why im still friends with some of the people im friends with, but it sjust that i have no one else.. Im Christian but I dont go to church cause my parents aren't, so its not like I get a ride or anything. And if barely any of my friends are Christian, its not like they can pick me up and take me since my parents cant. if i went to church then i would definitely have friends who believe in God and everything..but right now thats not really possible..

So yeah..ever feel this way..or something similar? and what should I do? =x

[redpeony]

I think you guys are being a bit too harsh on her because I'm sure she didn't really mean it that way, as in she only wants friends based on religion.

I know how she feels; It's not that she thinks non-Christians are bad people.. but maybe It's that common ground that lets her feel more connected with them, you know? Many friendships these days are completely based on superficiality, and I know first hand that It's hard to find a quality friendship where people don't feel the need to gossip, always talk about meaningless things. Sometimes I feel out of place with people like that. I'm not in any way saying that It's non-Christians are all like that, and all Christians are the greatest of friends... because I know some Christians who are half-hearted and not the kindest of people. But based on experience, I've found that It's just easier sometimes to connect with people who have the same set of values as you. This goes for non-religious people too, no?

It was a bit of a generalization on her part, and maybe it is on mine too.. but I'm just pointing out that I don't think she's trying to sound judgmental or anything.. she just wants a certain bond, and believes this is the way to find it. (tell me if I'm wrong =p.)

[illumineering]

I think you guys are being a bit too harsh on her because I'm sure she didn't really mean it that way, as in she only wants friends based on religion.

I know how she feels; It's not that she thinks non-Christians are bad people.. but maybe It's that common ground that lets her feel more connected with them, you know? Many friendships these days are completely based on superficiality, and I know first hand that It's hard to find a quality friendship where people don't feel the need to gossip, always talk about meaningless things. Sometimes I feel out of place with people like that. I'm not in any way saying that It's non-Christians are all like that, and all Christians are the greatest of friends... because I know some Christians who are half-hearted and not the kindest of people. But based on experience, I've found that It's just easier sometimes to connect with people who have the same set of values as you. This goes for non-religious people too, no?

It was a bit of a generalization on her part, and maybe it is on mine too.. but I'm just pointing out that I don't think she's trying to sound judgmental or anything.. she just wants a certain bond, and believes this is the way to find it. (tell me if I'm wrong =p.)

What is going to fundamentally change when she couldn't/wouldn't speak up when her "friends" were talking about the girl who used to be friends with them? Saying she wants to hang out with "Christians" isn't going to change the fact she doesn't even speak up on behalf of her "friend" who is possibly contemplating suicide. Having a group of friends who say they are Christian is useless if they do not use those principles of faith to guide their behavior/actions with the rest of the world. She needs to be the things she desires. That's not going to happen when she doesn't even support her own friend. The opportunity to live the example of the random Xangas is in her hand and she's ignoring it.

[*mipadi*]

What is going to fundamentally change when she couldn't/wouldn't speak up when her "friends" were talking about the girl who used to be friends with them?  Saying she wants to hang out with "Christians" isn't going to change the fact she doesn't even speak up on behalf of her "friend" who is possibly contemplating suicide.  Having a group of friends who say they are Christian is useless if they do not use those principles of faith to guide their behavior/actions with the rest of the world.  She needs to be the things she desires.  That's not going to happen when she doesn't even support her own friend.  The opportunity to live the example of the random Xangas is in her hand and she's ignoring it.

In your haste to be critical, I think you are missing her core desire: she wants to have friends with whom she can discuss her relationship with God. It's hard to discuss such a relationship with friends who don't share the same belief in the Christian God, or don't feel the same sort of connection. Her disgust with her friends' behavior is not why she realized her desire to have Christian friends, but merely the catalyst that awakened the desire within her.