Dealing with Death |
 Jan 21 2006, 09:21 AM
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Hey,
I just saw my voice teacher last night and then this morning I got a call saying that her husband had died at 1:00 AM. It doesn't make any sense> He was perfectly healthy. He was out getting something to eat while I was having my lesson last night. I really want to say something or do something to help because she is my favorite teacher and one of my favorite people but I don't even know what I should do or say. How do you help someone you love when someone they loved is dead? Any suggestions are appreciated. |
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| *Zatanna* |
Jan 21 2006, 12:04 PM
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A few years back, my then assistant's husband died. She was off work for a while so there was that space. When she came back however, EVERYONE kept telling her that "God has a way" and "she'll be ok." Stuff like that. She hated it. Later she told me how much she appreciated the fact that I would listen, but didn't pursue her grief. You're in a teacher/student relationship so the dynamic is different. Still, be there for her because she is in a lot of pain right now. A card is a nice gesture, but don't ask, "are you ok?" because she isn't, and will not be for a while.
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Little Bird Dealing with Death Jan 21 2006, 09:21 AM
Blow_Don't_SUCK Simply be there for the person. A shoulder to cry ... Jan 21 2006, 09:50 AM mzkandi Moved to Relationships Jan 21 2006, 10:48 AM K!$$ Like ^x2 said, be there but don't nag her. Jan 21 2006, 10:55 AM illumineering Sending a sympathy card with a note from you would... Jan 21 2006, 11:23 AM
Hiphop d[-_-]b QUOTE(illumineering @ Jan 21 2006, 9:23 AM)Se... Jan 21 2006, 11:50 AM Blow_Don't_SUCK QUOTE(Zatanna @ Jan 21 2006, 1:04 PM)A few ye... Jan 21 2006, 06:19 PM FoxBandCutie08 I think the sympathy card idea is a good one. Writ... Jan 21 2006, 12:26 PM raenbow* see if you can go to the wake/funeral/anything of ... Jan 23 2006, 03:06 PM Little Bird Thank you all for the advice. I actually went to v... Jan 24 2006, 05:03 PM mouse_3k people die, its a part of life. Jan 24 2006, 10:00 PM glasseyes Well do what everyone else said to do. But be care... Jan 24 2006, 10:44 PM disco infiltrator If she looks sad or brings it up, simply say, ... Jan 24 2006, 10:48 PM |
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