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 Jan 16 2006, 08:26 AM
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 baby, be good to me  Group: Member Posts: 592 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,358  |
Now don't get me wrong, I trust my boyfriend with all my heart, but it still bothers me that he is still so close with his ex-girlfriend of nearly a year. He mentions her occasionally looking for a reaction of some sort from me. I don't want to mention it to him because he will think I am being completely ridiculous about it when I have no reason to be. I mean, I still am good friends with my ex and he doesn't show any sign of caring. But it's different, they have so much in common and I can't help but think he might fall for her again. What do you think I should do?
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Jan 16 2006, 08:36 PM
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baby, be good to me Group: Member Posts: 592 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,358 |
I know you all are right, the obvious choice is to simply talk to him. But I know all he is going to do is constantly reassure me that he feels nothing for her and then he is going to think i'm pissed or jealous or whatever whenever he does happen to see her in the future and i don't want him to feel that way. i'm just being insecure, i know.
And as for the not letting it bother me in front of him thing, I did that today. I was at his house and she pulls in and he looks at her and then me and he is like Oh I invited (her name) and some other girl, is that okay? and i was like oh yeah yeah, it's cool. She ended up not even coming inside and she left after she talked to him for a few seconds. It was weird. I don't know what I expect him to do if I don't talk to him about it. I just wish he could just figure it out. Isn't it clear that I wouldn't want him spending so much time with his ex, who broke up with him by the way. |
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Jan 17 2006, 06:18 PM
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QUOTE(cleec @ Jan 16 2006, 8:36 PM) And as for the not letting it bother me in front of him thing, I did that today. I was at his house and she pulls in and he looks at her and then me and he is like Oh I invited (her name) and some other girl, is that okay? and i was like oh yeah yeah, it's cool. She ended up not even coming inside and she left after she talked to him for a few seconds. It was weird.  that seems a bit shady to me. if i was in your situation and my boyfriend invited over his ex while i was over and didn't even ask me if it was okay (putting me in a situation where i was forced to be okay with it), i'd be pissed off. |
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Jan 18 2006, 02:53 PM
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QUOTE(xcaitlinx @ Jan 17 2006, 7:18 PM) that seems a bit shady to me. if i was in your situation and my boyfriend invited over his ex while i was over and didn't even ask me if it was okay (putting me in a situation where i was forced to be okay with it), i'd be pissed off. ^yea i agree. everything sounded fine until that part. i think you should specifically ask him about that one time, like "heyyy i know you and ___ are cool and everything but how come you invited her over? you know that was pretty awkward right..." i think you should trust him, but you also definetly have a right to confront him about his ex after what happened. |
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cleec boyfriend is still close with his ex Jan 16 2006, 08:26 AM
K!$$ Well it's natural to feel this way especially ... Jan 16 2006, 09:27 AM andromeda_90 ^agreed. But if you're really being bothered b... Jan 16 2006, 09:58 AM Levy2k6 I'm sorta in the position of your bf.. i'm... Jan 16 2006, 10:40 AM Kristinaa TALK TALK TALK!
How is he supposed to know th... Jan 16 2006, 10:48 AM _sarcastic_ if you're not feeling alright then why not tel... Jan 16 2006, 11:03 AM lit0chinagirl yup, talk to the boy. see how he feels. i don... Jan 16 2006, 06:25 PM Ilaem trust.
you don't want him thinking your jealou... Jan 16 2006, 06:32 PM iNyCxShoRT I know how you feel; I was going through the same ... Jan 16 2006, 06:36 PM
Zatanna Gah. I hate these type of situations. You feel l... Jan 16 2006, 08:56 PM xnofearx I'm close to one of my exes too. It's not ... Jan 17 2006, 02:45 PM Gerifan04 I think what you're feeling is natural and per... Jan 18 2006, 04:12 AM mouse_3k just tell him. Its better to tell him then hide al... Jan 18 2006, 11:20 AM SSJ Kenshin Silence is the Poison that kills relationships. Jan 18 2006, 05:29 PM pastellove_ wow, this is exactly the situation i was/am in.
m... Mar 4 2006, 11:33 PM lilxl0ser i think it's normal for you to feel this way, ... Mar 4 2006, 11:46 PM priyas someones jealous..jk.
iono...their prolly just fri... Mar 5 2006, 12:39 AM niez_cho He's just trying to make you jealous... or pro... Mar 5 2006, 04:37 AM
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