despratley in need for advice Options

[Dance_like_poetr...]

Ok well my dance show was a couple days ago and my "best friend" didnt make it. She tells me that she couldn't take off work cause her mom wouldn't let her cause her job needs people on fridays. Well I kno for a fact that she has never taken a day off from her job since this summer and they would never fire her now cause ppl are dropping like flies, and her mother is pretty nice about this stuff. I feel like she didnt really make much of an effort to show up at my show, or really didnt care. This is prob. the last show I'll ever do this year and she couldnt even make it... Am I overreacting? Because honestly If she were in my shoes I would do anything to make it to her last show. Please I need advice. I have so much steam right now.

[Dance_like_poetr...]

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best bet would be...your best friend doesn't have the same instrests as you do....and she'd rather be making money... then come watch you dance at a dance show...which shows she is maturing....thinking about her financial issues...it might seem kinda of cold...that im telling you this.... best bet would be..confront her about it...and ask her if she has any intrest in what your doing... be blunt... it's the only way your going to get the real awnser from her.

I am going to confront her about this as soon as I can. But it's not like she doesn't need the money. And even if she weren't intrested in dance I'd still expect her to show up since she is my "best friend". If she were doing her last baseball game (and i absolutley hate baseball) I would attend it.

Your best friend doesn't like your pathetic shows. She thinks you suck and it's probably the biggest waste of time in her life.

Go get a boy friend.

um k.

fcuk her!
obviously she dosn't have tou on her high priorities list so i suggest u distance urself and try to form some new friendships. dont break ties altogether, just try to stop thinking of her as ur bestfriend!!!

Yea maybe... i just need to talk things out with her first. Im not gonna break it off completely because she wasnt at a show.. its the fact that it was something really important to me.

Well, you said your best friend never has missed work before. In that case, I don't think she'd jump at the chance of skipping. And if they are firing people a lot lately, then she probably wants to keep her job by doing a good job and showing up when she's supposed to.

I'm sure she's sorry about missing your show. I'm not sure if she is into dance shows, but i'm sure she would of wanted to see you. She just had previous commitments. You should respect that. I don't think she really had a choice here, but if you are so wound up about it and if she is your best friend, then you should probably talk to her about it instead of keeping this from her.

As for your dance show, I hope it went well. Dance is important to me, so I know how big a show is. (I also know how important it is to have people there supporting you) But I also know how important work is, and you should be proud of her for being responsible and going to work when she should. Because most of my friends skip all the time.

So talk to her about it. cool off first, and then talk to her.
But I really suggest you think about this whole situation first.
Hope things work out

Thank you I think that ur advice helped me the most. I'm def. talking to her soon, i'm some what cooled off, and hopefully things will work out. I hope i'm not making something small into a big issue.