too soon ?, sex .. Options

[crazi_in_love_08]

ok .. well ive known this guy for about a year .. and we were soo close from the day we've met .. we just started dating like a month ago .. lately ive been thinkin about sex alot .. ( yes im still a virgin) ..before i never really thought about it .. do u think its too soon to have sex? i tried talkin to my best friend .. her and her boyfriend recently broke up .. but i cant talk to her about anything cuz she always talks about her ex .. this is what she told me

HER: ull have sex...and then h e'll break up wit ur ass adn ull wanna kill urself...if u wanna be like me ... go have sex go for it..
HER: look at how i am now ....its pretty shyty rite?
HER: well thats wat one year fo being in love can do to u .... if i wouldnt of had sex it wouldnt be AS bad as it is now...
HER: so ur choice.... knowin u guys wont be together forever...even tho u would love to... u wont... would u do this to urself

..with my past relationships.. i never even thought about having sex with them or being with them forever .. but this ons is different .. we were talkin the other day and he said as soon as im out of highschool (im 16) we are gettin an appartment and all this stuff .. he has everything planned out .. and yesterday he was talkin to my mom while i was in the shower and he told her that he really loves me and wants to be with me forever and all this stuff ...and he was talkin about everything with her .. can u please give me your opinion?

[*mipadi*]

I think teenagers rush into sexual intercourse too fast. Sex should mean something; I feel that a lot of relationships in high school, no matter how "real" they seem, are not solid enough to warrant sex. At that age, you should be dating to get a feel for what you like, develop solid relationship skills, and so forth. Jumping into a sexual relationship makes a relationship suddenly much more serious, and then it becomes too much of a burden, and can often hinder development. Furthermore, as noted, there are a lot of problems (sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy) associated with sex, aside from the mental/emotional issues.

And not to be a killjoy, but just because someone says that he is thinking about your future together, that you're "going to get an apartment together," doesn't mean much at such an early age. Trust me--relationships of all types (family, friends, romantic) change a lot once the parties reach college-age.

To be honest, sexual intercourse isn't something I'd rush into lightly. And besides...there's always alternative methods in this department.

[ParanoidAndroid]

I think teenagers rush into sexual intercourse too fast. Sex should mean something; I feel that a lot of relationships in high school, no matter how "real" they seem, are not solid enough to warrant sex. At that age, you should be dating to get a feel for what you like, develop solid relationship skills, and so forth. Jumping into a sexual relationship makes a relationship suddenly much more serious, and then it becomes too much of a burden, and can often hinder development. Furthermore, as noted, there are a lot of problems (sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy) associated with sex, aside from the mental/emotional issues.

And not to be a killjoy, but just because someone says that he is thinking about your future together, that you're "going to get an apartment together," doesn't mean much at such an early age. Trust me--relationships of all types (family, friends, romantic) change a lot once the parties reach college-age.

To be honest, sexual intercourse isn't something I'd rush into lightly. And besides...there's always alternative methods in this department.

I agree but do you have to put it in big words?