Useless girlfriend?, Ever felt like one? Options

[da_SALSA]

Well...okay, my boyfriend and I have been friends for 5 years. Out of that 5 years we've liked each other for 2 years and started going out last year. We went out September '05 and then I broke up with him the next month because I found him cheating on me with 2 other girls. Yeah, that was really something. Then he started going out with one of the girls which was his ex. I got really mad at how fast he "recovered" and so after I got home from a party, I called him and asked him if everything was just a game. Afterwards, we got to talking and he cried on the phone. Anyway, after a few days of him still going out with his ex and him still calling me--I got sick of it. I told him, if he still liked me why he was still going out w/ his ex. And so, he broke up with her...and he and I were okay. Not going out yet, but we just talked like we always do. Then one day he asked me out. I said yes. We were really happy because his ex was "okay" with it and was going out w/ someone else. After a week...she started up again. She called their house, his cell, and followed him around. So we talked and we both broke up. By this time, I forgave him w/ the whole cheating thing because I also did something terrible to him--I cut off all connections to him over the summer and I guess...I led him on.

Anyway, I was heartbroken once again. But we still talked. Still flirted. Then his ex started becoming crazy. LITERALLY. When he and I would hang out, she would go nuts. She would try to kill herself. Cry in public. Spread all this crazy lies in school about me, and a lie that they had sex so many times. Anyway, at one point she ran to the highway because he didn't want to hang out w/ her and wanted to watch a different movie with his friends. So anyway, fast foward...I told her off one day and that finally made her realize that I dislike her. After telling her off, he told her that he doesn't care about what she does. After a few fays he asked me out again...around December. So we were happy because well, we finally told her off and she stayed away.

So everything was going GREAT. Had a great Christmas and New Year...that is on the 2nd of January when we went out on a date to go to the movies, his crazy ex stalked us out! She followed us and ran after us! Afterwards, she wouldn't stop calling my cellphone so I got it taken up. She also kept on calling him and asking everyone where he was. So he got his cell taken up, too. His mom doesn't like his ex for harassing them (she sent a text message to his mom calling her a b_tch--which really made me mad because that lady is sweet!) and so now he might have to take counciling. They're going to (most probably) get a restraining order so that his ex will stay away.

So...the point...I know exactly what's going on. But, he won't let me help. I mean I'm involved in it, too! His ex won't leave me alone in school or out of school. I mean, I fight back. But, what I really want is him to open up. I do know what he's going through, but I wish he can tell me what's wrong with him besides saying, "You know what's wrong." The past few days, it's as if we aren't going out. When we see each other...it's like WTF happened? I try to lighten up everything and it isn't working. I'm getting tired of the same crap happening (his ex has been doing this the moment we started to re-like each other again...that's April 05!). Every time his crazy ex pulls a stalking trick, there's this HUGE gap that comes between us. I dislike his ex for doing this to him. I wish he can know somehow that, he isn't the only one suffering. That I am too, and girls, you know how cat fights are when they aren't physical. It's pretty darn frustrating. I really want to slap her, but seeing as that I go to a strict Christian school and I'm in a scholarship...I don't wanna lose that.

But, anyway, what should I do? Should I just let it play out? Give him space? 'cuz I feel really feel useless. Because before being his girlfriend, I'm also his bestfriend...so it's a bit frustrating.

[_sarcastic_]

yeah they should really get a restraining order on that girl, she's becoming a stalker.
you should give him a little space, let him recover first, jsut be there when he needs you. don't let his ex tear the both of you apart again though.