too soon ?, sex .. |
too soon ?, sex .. |
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ok .. well ive known this guy for about a year .. and we were soo close from the day we've met .. we just started dating like a month ago .. lately ive been thinkin about sex alot .. ( yes im still a virgin) ..before i never really thought about it .. do u think its too soon to have sex? i tried talkin to my best friend .. her and her boyfriend recently broke up .. but i cant talk to her about anything cuz she always talks about her ex .. this is what she told me
HER: ull have sex...and then h e'll break up wit ur ass adn ull wanna kill urself...if u wanna be like me ... go have sex go for it.. HER: look at how i am now ....its pretty shyty rite? HER: well thats wat one year fo being in love can do to u .... if i wouldnt of had sex it wouldnt be AS bad as it is now... HER: so ur choice.... knowin u guys wont be together forever...even tho u would love to... u wont... would u do this to urself ..with my past relationships.. i never even thought about having sex with them or being with them forever .. but this ons is different .. we were talkin the other day and he said as soon as im out of highschool (im 16) we are gettin an appartment and all this stuff .. he has everything planned out .. and yesterday he was talkin to my mom while i was in the shower and he told her that he really loves me and wants to be with me forever and all this stuff ...and he was talkin about everything with her .. can u please give me your opinion? |
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yes, like everyone else, i think you're too young to be having sex right now. i'm just about your age and i can't imagine losing my virginity at all until i'm at least in college or maybe even later. there are so many people around me who aren't virgins anymore and when i look at them, i just cant believe the truth. many people who have already lost it just continue to have sex with whoever after they think they find "the one"-- once things end with "the one" and i think they basically just have sex again because they don't see the point after already losing it. kind of like a rebound sort of thing, i suppose. people these days are always saying how they're "in love" and not realize that it was just mere attraction/lust that kept them together or whatever. even though you have known him for a long time already, i think that you should wait until you've been with him awhile so that you know what he's all about when he's IN a relationship with you and NOT a friendship. although your friend is heartbroken, what she says does make sense. she's a living example of what you may or may not become-- are you willing to take that risk? so please do yourself a favor and wait.
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