WAT WOULD U DO Options

[insane_designs]

im jus wonderin wat u would do in this situation..

i met this one guy a while back in March of 2005... over spring break... we talked a bit on spring break (lives far away..outta state) and then when school started up we didn't talk for some time..finally he got ahold of me again and we have been going out eversince... the problem is the distance... and the fact that he uses his dad's cell and can't give me the number to call him

He used to call me everyday and we would always talk... (he's 18) but ever since he got this new job.its been less and less... it has been sometimes weeks that we don't talk... i miss him so much.. he constantly says he loves me and i say the same... yet he can't give me his number ... he has this great paying job, is in college, lives on campus, owns two cars (escalade and a truck) yet he can't buy himself a dang phone... so i can call him when i miss calls... wit the phone i have i get such bad reception at times that it won't come thru...or it will b so late that im in bed... i miss him so much that i save his voicemails and constantly replay them... i jus feel like i've been meetin him at least half way..and he isn't makin the greatest effort to do the same

he the greatest guy i've ever met and i don't wanna lose him to this distance thing...(lives in iowa)(im in wisconsin).. it has been about 9 months now and i've loved every minute of it...

i jus don't kno wat to do... i sit up at night..waitin for his calls (if he calls) i try not to fall asleep when he says he'll call at a certain time... i've stayed up till 4 am even tho i knew he wouldnt call me that late.... i jus wish he would put more effort into our relationship.... including us getting together in person...

i kno people say that online relationships don't last...but mine really isn't online ne more... i've taken it offline and can't help thinkin bout him... i can't help wantin him ... i have this feelin that he isn't like all the other guys i've dated..that he's special, he isn't the jerk and treats me like i was the only other one on earth

once he hasn't called since christmas eve..he left me a voice mail that night..he sang to me..i've kept it..and listened to it everday...sometimes more than once...

i wanna stay with him... and get together..and move our relationship forward.. i've wanted to talk to him about this..but when we do talk...that never seems to happen, we usually end up talkin bout something else...its not that im avoiding it...
its also that since he calls so late at time..he doesn't wanna talk for long cuz he has to get to bed himself...

i jus don't kno wat to do
i could use some help

[nightowl89]

yeah the whole cell thing does seem a bit shady...try calling that number from another number he doen't know and see if he picks up.

Not seeing him for so long lets you make your own perfect version of him...remeber he is a person with faults. I mean look at the semi-decent guys aroudn you...thats probly what he's like most of the time, not the prince charming version his words may have created in you head. Do you know this guy's background, how he usually acts? Talk to him, but I would try to wean youself off of him...it may take time, but it sounds like this is getting unhealthy and non-benificial for you. I'm kinda in a similar situation...PM me if you need someone to talk to.