WAT WOULD U DO Options

[insane_designs]

im jus wonderin wat u would do in this situation..

i met this one guy a while back in March of 2005... over spring break... we talked a bit on spring break (lives far away..outta state) and then when school started up we didn't talk for some time..finally he got ahold of me again and we have been going out eversince... the problem is the distance... and the fact that he uses his dad's cell and can't give me the number to call him

He used to call me everyday and we would always talk... (he's 18) but ever since he got this new job.its been less and less... it has been sometimes weeks that we don't talk... i miss him so much.. he constantly says he loves me and i say the same... yet he can't give me his number ... he has this great paying job, is in college, lives on campus, owns two cars (escalade and a truck) yet he can't buy himself a dang phone... so i can call him when i miss calls... wit the phone i have i get such bad reception at times that it won't come thru...or it will b so late that im in bed... i miss him so much that i save his voicemails and constantly replay them... i jus feel like i've been meetin him at least half way..and he isn't makin the greatest effort to do the same

he the greatest guy i've ever met and i don't wanna lose him to this distance thing...(lives in iowa)(im in wisconsin).. it has been about 9 months now and i've loved every minute of it...

i jus don't kno wat to do... i sit up at night..waitin for his calls (if he calls) i try not to fall asleep when he says he'll call at a certain time... i've stayed up till 4 am even tho i knew he wouldnt call me that late.... i jus wish he would put more effort into our relationship.... including us getting together in person...

i kno people say that online relationships don't last...but mine really isn't online ne more... i've taken it offline and can't help thinkin bout him... i can't help wantin him ... i have this feelin that he isn't like all the other guys i've dated..that he's special, he isn't the jerk and treats me like i was the only other one on earth

once he hasn't called since christmas eve..he left me a voice mail that night..he sang to me..i've kept it..and listened to it everday...sometimes more than once...

i wanna stay with him... and get together..and move our relationship forward.. i've wanted to talk to him about this..but when we do talk...that never seems to happen, we usually end up talkin bout something else...its not that im avoiding it...
its also that since he calls so late at time..he doesn't wanna talk for long cuz he has to get to bed himself...

i jus don't kno wat to do
i could use some help

[anoniez]

I agree with Chii. This looks kinda shady =/ I understand your feelings for him and your desire to make it work out, but it really doesn't look like it's going to. He doesn't seem as interested in you as you are in him, unfortunately.

I would let it go. Find some nice guy your age =p who you'll be able to see every day. It sounds like you're wasting a lot of effort on this guy.. staying up til 4am for him even though he's not gonna call, listening to his voicemails over and over.. he's really taking advantage of you in this relationship. Do you think he does the same things you do? Or thinks about you as much as you think about him? I hate to say it, but it really doesn't seem like it. :( It looks like you're very dependent on him, "hooked" I would say - back off for awhile and try to see this objectively. Do you see you guys going anywhere in the future?

At least talk to him about how it doesn't seem like he's meeting you halfway. It sounds like this relationship isn't making you happy at all, what with all the waiting for him and thinking about him all the time when he doesn't call for weeks.