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 Jan 3 2006, 07:34 PM
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Ok so I'm 18 and have never had a boyfriend or even a first kiss. When I talk with my friends and before I go to sleep at night I feel like I want a boyfriend. Someone of the opposite sex to be my friend and spend personal time with. I've had 3 opportunities to have a boyfriend and turned them all away because I'm scared. All 3 of them want to be this close *crosses fingers* right away. I'm the kind of person who needs to take time before I get close to someone. It took me about 2 years of pre-friendship before me and my now best friend actually became best friends. I'm just that kind of person where it takes a long time to earn my trust and just as long for me to actually want to hang out with you.
Right now one of my friends is trying to set me up with a guy. We all went on a double date to the movies and he seems really nice and we have a little in common. But that very night after I went home he started text messaging me and days after that too. I felt like I was being suffocated. I NEED my personal space. He’s nice and all but he's got a lot of problems, he's living with his friend (parents kicked him out), and he smokes cigarettes. I've got my own problems I don't know if I'm mentally strong enough right now to help someone else. Although I'm sure he'd help me with my own. I'm also very shy; I'd feel embarrassed telling my mom I have a boyfriend. It’s because I've never had one and even though she’s pushed me to try and have a relationship for some reason I'd still feel embarrassed. Plus right now I don’t feel like dedicating a lot of my time to someone else. I’ve got my own problems here at home that I need to sort out; I don’t know if adding someone else to the mix is a good idea. So my question is should I take a chance and try to see him again or wait until I know I'm ready. Am I being to cautious or am I just being smart knowing that I'm not ready for a relationship? I really need some help; this has been driving me crazy. |
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Jan 5 2006, 02:31 AM
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 Being happy...is all that matters Group: Member Posts: 765 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,284 |
Don't rush into it. Before, I've always wanted a boyfriend, you know, a guy that I could be intimate with. You could even say that I was desperate for one. Because I was. I'd think about having one day and night, and sigh in envy whenever I see couples holding hands walking down the hallway. Then, in Grade 11, when I was 16, the chance of being in a bf/gf relationship with a guy was opened to me. Of course, I was only too glad to refuse it. So I had a bf for a while...and while it was great, I felt that I wasn't ready. Come on! I was the type of girl who'd get tired of something really quickly. Then he dumped me, and even tho we've only been together for a month, it hurt. And sometimes, I wonder if it was better to have just said no to him and wait for the time when I AM ready for one. I sometimes regret giving him my first kiss.
So I'm just telling you that you should wait until you're ready to pursue a relationship with a guy. Meanwhile, why not get to know some more guys? |
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LuvsDogs387 boyfriend advice Jan 3 2006, 07:34 PM
RupertGrintluvr15 I think that you should wait till your ready becau... Jan 3 2006, 07:44 PM x0x_jazi well - if you don't feel like you could handle... Jan 3 2006, 08:09 PM LittleLulu i know it can get lonely sometimes, but having a b... Jan 3 2006, 08:27 PM Hiphop d[-_-]b Wait until you are ready. Its good that you know y... Jan 3 2006, 08:32 PM LuvsDogs387 All of that seems to make A LOT of sense. And I... Jan 3 2006, 08:49 PM Shortiiex you should take a chance but if you strongly feel ... Jan 3 2006, 10:17 PM mai_z I think you know the answer to your own questions.... Jan 3 2006, 10:53 PM _sarcastic_ yeah i agree with you, don't rush into things ... Jan 3 2006, 11:06 PM cuul_gurl take ur time. B urself. U'll find a nice guy. Jan 3 2006, 11:47 PM nightowl89 I agree that you shouldn't rush into things th... Jan 3 2006, 11:52 PM illumineering You made a point that it took 2 years of "pre... Jan 4 2006, 05:15 AM mipadi Relationships don't work unless you're com... Jan 4 2006, 09:03 AM krnxswat Wait. Jan 4 2006, 11:01 AM lilxl0ser i would say that you should wait it out..i mean yo... Jan 4 2006, 01:16 PM seremela_culnamo I agree with what everyone have said so far (or at... Jan 4 2006, 01:47 PM anoniez If you feel like you're not ready, don't d... Jan 4 2006, 07:07 PM 49er_fan I say no matter what~always wait until you are rea... Jan 4 2006, 07:10 PM _Liz I would kill to be in your shoes, even though I... Jan 4 2006, 09:40 PM chaneun http://www.espinthebottle.com
http://www.eharmony... Jan 4 2006, 09:49 PM LuvsDogs387 Ok so I decided to wait and right now I'm more... Jan 7 2006, 12:21 AM
lilxl0ser QUOTE(LuvsDogs387 @ Jan 7 2006, 12:21 AM)Ok s... Jan 15 2006, 11:28 PM K!$$ Good for you. Someday you'll find a good guy ... Jan 7 2006, 03:06 AM FoxBandCutie08 I think you should take your time, there's bou... Jan 15 2006, 08:25 PM xaitlyn im only 15, not 18, but i get what you mean
i thin... Jan 15 2006, 08:32 PM sabbyrina go for it. you're thinking to much. trust me. ... Jan 15 2006, 10:53 PM andromeda_90 You shouldn't go out with someone because you ... Jan 16 2006, 01:07 AM dorkk-ie tell him about ur problems. he may be able to help... Jan 28 2006, 11:47 PM |
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