My Catch-22, read up Options

[fameONE]

It isn't often that I post anything pertaining to my relationships online, other than poking fun at my exes. And it certainly isn't often that I ask anyone for their input. However, I'm havign a hard time truly understanding females right now.

Here's the issue...

My style, my swagger, my charm (if you may) all send signs to women that I am a 'sexual deviant' of sorts. From the most innocent bookworms to 35 year old women; they all seem to think I'm all about sowing my oats. Everything changes when I wont' go past flirting and then it dawns on these women that I actually want something substantial. As soon as they learn this, they're ghost.

So, I find myself sometimes sleeping with women just to satisfy them. And no matter how good or bad it is, I'm still left with a feeling of utter disappointment because I'm longing for something that feels so out of reach. Is it so much to ask to find an intelligent, compassionate and well roudned woman that I can relate to and trust? I guess so.

Input.

[*Azarel*]

Yea, but it enver really works out. I'm not that type to become emotionally dependent because I truly believe I need no one but myself to attain happiness and enlightenment. However, I wouldn't want to hurt a woman if she gets attached. I'd feel horrible.

Oh, Brandon, that was by no means my advice to try to counter your problem; it was just my response to her comment about friends not wanting sex from each other.

In any case, I suck at giving relationship advice, but I might as well give it a stab since I'm already babbling. First off, I don't blame you for wanting an actual substantial relationship, and I'm sorry that the women you date don't want that.

But I personally don't think that's it you that the women are writing off, it's the fact that you want commitment. I mean, most guys your age are neither ready nor looking for it, and they seemingly just want some booty--at least that's what the stereotype is.

Just by reading your posts on the forums already tells me that your personality is every bit as attractive as your physical appearance, but the women who see you don't see past the combination of your age, your attractiveness, and the stereotype so they go for you without seeking anything deeper.

Obviously, you already know that the problem isn't you, so there isn't any real way you can remedy it. I don't know well this would work, but you never know until you give it a try: upon first meeting women who seem interested, let them know your intentions. If you find someone who doesn't just want the sex, they might be a little put off by such straightforwardness—but if they're genuine and intelligent (I know you want the smarts), I'm pretty sure they'll understand when you explain your situation. If you want to, that is.

Or you could always use some online dating service where you can let people know your intentions and then meet up to go out and such. And of course, if all else fails, there's always the underage createBlog community where more than half of the chicks would be willing to have your children. :P Sorry I couldn't be of much help.

theres a right person for everyone, till then, i would not be complaining about getting with all these women meanwhile.

And it's really not that easy.. Somewhere along the line, you get tired of the bullshit, and it'd be nice to settle down with someone you love. I don't really know how to explain it.

... k, I'm done rambling. I am not eloquent (D:), but I swear I'm good at listening.